My NSFW IML Scrapbook

My friends in Montreal have a nickname for me: “Kid Kodak.” It’s true… I take a lot of pictures, and my time at IML was no exception. You’ve already seen the racy videos I filmed that weekend; now you can check out my photos too. Enjoy! (For more pics, check out the IML recap over at Manhunt Daily, and also the pics from the live show that Dirk and I performed at Steamworks.)

Etiquette for the Uncouth: The DLNQNT Interview

Delinquent, indeed! While this interview originally dropped on DLNQNT.com over a week ago, I’ve been so caught up in IML madness that I’ve been unable to post it until now. Sorry about that! Anyway, back in May, the fine folks at DLNQNT contacted me and Dirk for an interview; they asked us the very same questions, which we answered independently. My responses are below; you can read my “raunchy pup’s” responses over on the DLNQNT site to see just how compatible we really are!


ETIQUETTE FOR THE UNCOUTH:

Falling in love with Jesse Jackman

Originally posted on May 22, 2012 at DLNQNT.com

To help us navigate the confusing world of love, lust, and what to wear, we’ve tapped a few of your favorite adult film stars for some… direction.

This week we caught up with Dirk Caber’s other half — who we heard so much about last week — Boston sweetheart Jesse Jackman. He’s made quite the dirty bird launch in the past year with and without the Mrs. It’s hard to say what’s more raunchy — their time onscreen or their schmoopie twitter messages.

DLNQNT: One could assume you get hit on a lot; what’s a gentle letdown for an unwanted advance? Jesse Jackman: Dirk taught me this one, actually. When I’m with him, I’ll quickly introduce him as my partner. Tone of voice means everything here; Dirk’s absolutely right when he says this can just as easily be used an invitation as well. When I’m flying solo — which happens a lot, as Dirk and I live in different cities — I’ll work his name into the conversation, which has a similar effect… and if the advance is in fact wanted, it’s a simple way of informing the other person that it’s not going anywhere beyond having a little fun.

Manscaping — how much is too much? And how do you get your partner to clean up his act in hard to reach places? JJ: The only situation in which I’ll condone manscaping is if birds are starting to nest in your chest hair. Then, perhaps, a light trim on the minimum setting is called for. Otherwise… manscaping is hairesy!

What’s your ultimate dating deal-breaker? JJ: Oh, that’s an easy one. The ultimate deal-breaker is an inability to communicate. If I find myself constantly trying to drive the conversation forward without any contribution from the other side, it’s probably not going to work.

Forget Mars and Venus; it’s been said that there are five languages of love regardless of sex and orientation — which is the most important? JJ: Continuing with the connection theme, I’d have to say quality time is the most important, although physical touch is a close second. I try to be very careful around the “acts of service” piece, though. If one’s not mindful, that could easily slip into a tit-for-tat scenario: “I did this for you. Now you owe me.” I’ve seen relationships fracture because of that, and I’m careful not to emulate that behavior in mine.

Through the courting process, how do you recognize a keeper from the background noise? JJ: It’s a feeling; fortunately I’ve come to recognize it. I feel a certain lightness in my chest and a nervous excitement when I look at the other person, and it sort of moves upward towards my neck and face. That sounds weird, I know, but it has always been a portent of a strong connection… and nine months into our relationship, I still feel that way every time I even think about Dirk.

What’s the best way to keep your boudoir fresh? JJ: This may sound silly, but a number of years ago an ex-boyfriend gave me a scented spray that he bought from Bleu Lavande, an enormous lavender farm in western Québec. A couple spritzes of that, and my room smells like a meadow… no matter what manner of debauchery had been stinking up the place beforehand.

Jesse Jackman can be found on Facebook, Twitter, and writes regularly on his blog (NSFW). You can also catch him in person in Chicago this weekend for IML.