Johnny Parker, J.P. Barnaby, Dirk Caber, and Me at Hamburger Mary's in Kansas City

This one’s for the ladies

Happy International Women’s Day! IWD, which has been observed since 1908, is a global celebration of women everywhere, their achievements, and the strides that nations and cultures the world over have made towards equality for women. (This year’s theme, in fact, is “Equality for Women is Progress for All.”) In the spirit of this holiday, I’d just like to extend a hearty and heart-felt THANK YOU to all my lady fans. And there are a lot of you.

One of my fans, Andrea B. from California, recently asked me the following question:

Out of curiosity, how common is it for a woman to be a fan of man on man porn? I seem to be a rare find in my immediate world. My man is bi, and I like it more than he does! lol Straight porn usually bores me. Double the men double the fun!!

Believe it or not, it’s not uncommon at all. In fact, according to Facebook Insights — which tracks the demographics of my fan base — 13% of my Facebook fans are women. That’s over 21,000 of you! And I’ve found that they’re some of my most loyal, interesting fans too. (No slight on the guys… there are tons of loyal, interesting men out there as well!)

Inside Out (Smaller)Interestingly, my female fan base jumped from about 6% to a whopping 11% back in October of 2013 with the release of Andrew Grey’s gay romance novel, Inside Out. J.P. Barnaby, a famous author of gay romance fiction herself, suggested to Mr. Grey that I could be a good model for the cover of his new book; he then reached out to me and I happily agreed, not realizing that it would introduce me to an amazing new fan base. I hadn’t been very familiar with the world of gay romance literature (“GayRomLit”) before then, but I’ve since learned that a large percentage of GayRomLit fans are women. Thank you, Mr. Grey, for introducing me to all of these wonderful women whom I’m ever so proud to call my fans!

So, once again, I’d like to express my eternal gratitude for all those amazing ladies out there whom I’ve chatted with at events and appearances, on the Facebook page, on Twitter, or here on the blog. I’m so, so grateful for your support! And finally… if, like Andrea, you think you’re a “rare find” because you like gay porn, trust me: while you’re definitely a gem of a find, you’re most certainly not alone. But don’t just take my word for it… over 21,000 of you can’t be wrong.

Johnny Parker, J.P. Barnaby, Dirk Caber, and Me at Hamburger Mary's in Kansas City

Johnny Parker, J.P. Barnaby, Dirk Caber, and me at Hamburger Mary’s in Kansas City

25 replies
  1. Valynda
    Valynda says:

    Well it’s not that I just like gay porn, because I do, but you and Dirk are very personable. You have positive attitudes about life. And you really appropriate your fans. And then there is that whole thing that you two are just damn cute together. 😉

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  2. Rain Carrington
    Rain Carrington says:

    Hi Jesse! I’m a writer of gayromlit. I know many writers who adore you and your husband and I am one of them. You always have a big smile and warm words to go with your sexiness. Thank you for this tribute to us, your female fans!! <3 Have a wonderful weekend!

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  3. Tashia
    Tashia says:

    Wish I could be part of that awesome sandwich! I found you through Andrews Grey’s Cover for Inside Out. And after following you now for 4 months I love how you love your fans. I love how personable you and Dirk are. And like what Valynda said “your just damn cute together”

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  4. Bonnie
    Bonnie says:

    I am also jealous of JP but I usually am. I am one of the ladies that found you thru Andrew Grey. I would love for you to pose for more of his covers. Your pic from Inside Out is my wallpaper for my iPad and every time I turn it in I get a little excited. That is his hottest cover so far and I have many many of his books. You and Dirk together would make a very nice cover!

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  5. Liz
    Liz says:

    This is such a sweet gift to your female fans. Thanks very much for the special post. I discovered you and Dirk at about the same time as Andrew Grey’s book was released, but until I followed a link to read the details on your temporary FB banning, I had no idea who that was on the book cover.

    Once I found your FB page and started reading about you and Dirk, I found you to be such interesting people, that I now regularly check in to see what you’re up to. While I read plenty of gayromlit, I”m not much into watching porn, but I enjoy watching some of the preview clips. I especially enjoyed a clip of Dirk’s about a couple of professors and a student – I work at a University, so that really made me stop and wonder. 😉

    There’s been something that I’ve been meaning to ask you as a fellow Northeasterner, who’s spent the last several months bundled in warm clothing. Do you and Dirk always sleep in the nude, or is that just for the photos you post on FB?

    I’m also going to take this opportunity to restate my wish that when Andrew’s book featuring a photo of Dirk is released (the one you know about), you three guys will definitely have to do some sort of fan event. It will be all kinds of awesome.

    Have a great weekend!

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      Awww shucks… you’re welcome, Liz! 🙂 In answer to your question… unless it’s really, really cold, we both sleep in the nude all the time. (When we’re literally shivering from near-hypothermia, we’ll occasionally wear long underwear… but it’s rare.) It’s not just for the cameras! The interesting thing is that I never used to until I met Dirk. I’d almost always wear boxer shorts to bed, or even boxers and a t-shirt. Dirk has always slept naked, though… and when I first met him, and I had this sexy au naturel hunk of a man wrapped around me, how could I not follow suit? (Or, dare I say it, “follow birthday suit.”) The funny thing is that, since then, I sleep naked all the time too… even when we’re apart. I’m just more comfortable that way now, I guess.

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      Oh my… October is a LONG way away to start planning for. Although… Bloomingdale is not that far from Chicago… and Dirk used to live in Chicago… and we have a lot of good friends in Chicago……. hmmm………….

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  6. Lisa
    Lisa says:

    Thanks Jesse for always being so sweet and appreciative of your fans!

    I’ve been all m/m everything for several years and know tons of women that are also are. 2, 3 or 4 men are always better than one! 😛

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  7. Becca Locke
    Becca Locke says:

    I suppose I have the same questions in my mind that Andrea does–am I just weird? The vast majority of my friends are gay Leathermen–I guess I always just felt like “one of the boys.” Granted, I’ve had people point out that there are better ways to meet men, but a lot of straight men just can’t compare with the gay men in my life. I really enjoy being able to be around some hot, funny, wonderful guys without feeling like I’m going to get attacked. It’s very freeing. I found your page on Facebook, Jesse, and at first I just wanted to draw you, because you have that magic Something. It’s partly looks, but more just overall CHARISMA. Then I got to know you a little bit, and you are sweet, funny, BRILLIANT, and one of the most grounded men I have ever met. I am proud to be a fan and proud to be part of that underground mafia, the “porn star sisterhood!” Thank you for all you do!!

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  8. Christy T
    Christy T says:

    Great post! I am a fan of m/m and an attendee of GRL ( my husband and I both go) I found you through a few female friends and I just adore JP Barnaby! So glad to see that you recognize all your fans and just a shout out to say how much we adore you and Dirk.

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  9. JP Barnaby
    JP Barnaby says:

    Andrew asked me for a big, strong, beautiful man – who else fits that bill better than you, darlin’? 🙂 The cover is gorgeous. I’ve been cross-promoting with guys from the industry because I could introduce guys to a different potential audience. It’s been great and I’ve gotten to meet some truly amazing people – like you, Dirk, and my Drake. Thank you for always being so kind to me. I truly appreciate you both. <3

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  10. Karen Hatfield
    Karen Hatfield says:

    Yes, we are legion! LOL There really are a ton of us women who love gay porn around. Gay Rom Lit, which is a romance conference for gay romance sold out in under a week for over 300 spots for readers. And considering most of us love gay porn…well, that’s just the tip of the iceberg! And yes, we would love if both you and Dirk could come and celebrate with us there in Chicago. Im coming from Boston too and American Airlines has a special on flight tickets right now..hint hint 🙂

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  11. Valerie Degeirge
    Valerie Degeirge says:

    Txs so much Jesse that was sweet I’m a big fan of gay romance actually it’s all I really read I love and admire you and your husband Dirk and yes I’m one of the thousand who love gay porn lol
    Txs Again Hun

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  12. Richard DeVere
    Richard DeVere says:

    This is a very interesting and revealing discussion. It never occurred to me that women might find gay male porn sexy and titillating. Who knew?

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  13. Tracey
    Tracey says:

    I will just say Ditto to Liz and everyone’s comments. I have always loved man love but it was only through my Kindle and Amazon that I found what I was looking for with M/M Romance, then subsequently Gay potn. Trace Michaels of Rub Him alone is a revelation.
    I agree that is a combination of truly well rounded men and the fact that I like men so there is no “I wouldn’t feel that way” in reading M/F romance. Something like Herero porn not showing the man’s face so the man watching can superimpose himself maybe?
    I too found you and Dirk through both Andrew Grey and my GRL author community. I found complex, fun, intelligent, sexy and loving friends to broaden my experiences. That’s what I love about FB.
    I agree with Liz that some form of event after Upside Down comes out would be great. I know I would love to have the paper copies I will buy in addition to my ecopies to be signed by Drew and you both. Maybe a trip to MA.
    THANK YOU for your Thank You!! THANK YOU JP Barnaby

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  14. ShadowRider
    ShadowRider says:

    Great photo! And I did a double-take when I saw Johnny Parker. I never knew he did porn, and I see him at the local leather bar all the time. Now I know who else I’ll be searching for next time I shop for videos…

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