He’s a stepfather with a secret. But who wants to watch?

Dirk Caber in Stepfather's Secret

Pornography gives us a safe way to explore certain subjects that would otherwise be considered taboo. Movies like Joe Gage’s Chainsaw and Arcade on Route 9, for example, present sex-positive, educational relationships between fathers and their of-age sons. Dirk’s latest film from Men.com is no different, so it came as a bit of a surprise to me that its release has sparked so much controversy.

Stepfather’s Secret, which also stars Johnny Rapid, Trevor Spade, and Scott Harbor as Dirk’s three “stepsons”, is not what you might expect. On hearing the title, and seeing Dirk’s sinister expression on the movie’s title card, one might leap to the conclusion that the film depicts rape, incest, or some form of sexual abuse. This is not the case. The four scenes certainly play off the fantasy that many of us once had as adolescents — myself included — about the sexy, masculine older authority figure, be it a stepfather or a gym teacher or a best friend’s dad. However, it explores that fantasy in a respectful way by playing it out consensually between four of-age adults. The three younger actors are all over 18 (google “2257” if you’re interested in the legislation that governs legal age in porn), and the very first scene makes it clear that their on-screen characters are at least 18 as well. No one is being taken advantage of, and no one is being exploited; Dirk’s character is acting as a sexual guide and mentor for his three stepsons. He’s clearly depicted as a caring stepfather, not a predatory one. (And the titular “secret,” by the way, refers to the fact that Dirk’s character has not yet come out as bisexual to his new wife, not to something more nefarious.)

The reaction to Stepfather’s Secret has mostly been positive, with reviews like “All kinds of hot!” and “I can’t get enough of Dirk… OH DADDY!” and “Who wouldn’t love a hot stepfather like this?” A few of you, however, didn’t like the concept of the film… and that’s fine. To be honest, before I watched it, I wasn’t 100% comfortable with it either. And Dirk was of a similar mind when he first heard the premise. Here’s what he wrote about the scene on his Facebook page last week:

openquoteI had reservations about the subject too. The promotional materials can only make the stepdad figure out to be a predator; there isn’t space or place in this sort of photo for subtlety. And in this day and age where we presume any older man/younger man relationship must be predatory; really, what else can this be? However, we go to some great lengths (at least, we did in filming) to establish that 1. the stepsons are of legal age, 2. they’re unrelated to each other, 3. they’re all adopted by the stepdad’s wife and not by the stepdad, and 4. the stepsons all exhibit their own curiosity towards this and are not being coerced or forced. The fantasy is still one which a lot of guys respond to, and is still one which gets a lot of other guys’ ire up. I just want to point out that we were quite careful to make sure the fantasy portrayed here really tried to actually respect these lines of social respectability.

I know some guys who were molested by older adults — they in particular of course I can understand being leery of this subject. I find there’s two sides to nearly any taboo, though: those who are reasonably horrified, and those who find it hot. If porn were compelled to please both camps… well, we wouldn’t have gay porn anymore, would we?”

We’re all adults here (including each of Dirk’s co-stars), and while the content may make some people uncomfortable, it’s up to each and every one of us make up our minds whether or not to watch the film. I’m really proud of everything that my hubby does, and Stepfather’s Secret is no exception. My hubby turns in a top-notch performance as usual, the film looks excellent from a purely visual point of view, and the Men.com folks have told us that the scenes are proving to be very popular. You may or not may agree with the subject matter, but you deserve nothing less than the freedom to choose what you want to watch.

By the way, I think the most amazing thing about this film is that it was shot in just five days. Each of the “stepsons” shot two scenes apiece, but Dirk shot four. Four, in five days! I can tell you with experience that shooting one scene is hard enough! Five in four is a nearly superhuman feat. Hopefully the people who choose to watch Stepfather’s Secret will be happy with my hubby’s efforts, because it takes one hell of a guy to be able to pull that off.

19 replies
  1. Ed
    Ed says:

    I think the older man, younger man concept is hot. But sharing dick W/ mom is not hot. would never have sex w/ someone that got it on w/ a family member.

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  2. Tashia
    Tashia says:

    I thought it was extremely hot, and I joined the site just to see Dirk. The first scene when Dirk was Johnny and he had both balls in his mouth, I was like I need to learn that for hubby. Keep up the great work and do more speaking parts, for those that get off on a deep voice.

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      I know, right? He’s got the sexiest voice imaginable! Hopefully with the Mr. Benson work he’s been doing, we’ll all get to see on stage or screen in a mainstream role pretty soon. 🙂

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    • Lyne Beausejour
      Lyne Beausejour says:

      I so agree with you Tashia, I reacted the same way when I saw Dirk put both balls in is mouth, what a nice thing to learn to do to hubby.

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  3. Liz
    Liz says:

    While I’m able to separate this fantasy film from reality – no one here is related, and they’re all professional porn actors of legal age – I do find the concept a bit disturbing. The key word here for me if “father.” A stepfather should be a father figure, not a lover. Remember how repulsed many people were when Woody Allen married Soon Yi Previn, someone to whom he’d been a father figure?

    Jesse, consider how this might have played out in your own life. You’ve mentioned that you were raised by a single mom. What if, back when you were 18, you found yourself with a hot stepfather. Would you let the love of your mom’s life pound your ass in the shower while she was in the kitchen eating a sandwich he’d just made for her?

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      Hey Liz! It’s a very good question. I think I would have been uncomfortable enough in that situation not to go there, but a part of me would always have fantasized about it. And that’s exactly what this film explores… the fantasy. I think it does a nice job of exploring the “what if” scenario that I, and so many other horny teenagers, never experienced first hand (though we might have endlessly jerked off thinking about it). By the way, for me it was my high school phys ed teacher. Oh what I wouldn’t have given at my age to encounter him in the shower! 😉

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      (And yeah, I know that’s not as personal as a stepfather, but I can easily see other people having similar fantasies about their hot stepdad… in fact, a number of people have chimed in to that effect on my Facebook page.)

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  4. Liz
    Liz says:

    Thanks for the replies Jesse. As I said, I understand the concept of the video, but when I dig beneath the surface, things get a bit uncomfortable. It’s certainly led to an interesting discussion.

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  5. Alonso
    Alonso says:

    Great. Another “impossible dream-sexual fantasy” added to my mind. And trying to understand if this is bad or good for me.

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  6. Marc
    Marc says:

    Wow!! I just watched Dirks movie and to be honest a lot of it was very close to home for me. I like the guys in the movie had a great experience and no regrets.

    JJ do you have an email fans can contact you on?

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