He Said/He Said: “Around the World” with Dirk and Jesse

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Yesterday, I announced that Dirk and I will star together in a brand new TitanMen feature, SWEAT (click here for a free preview), coming next week exclusively to TitanMen.com. This will be our 4th Titan scene together (joining Loud and Nasty, Extra Firm, and Foul Play), and we’re both really excited for this latest one! With that in mind, the timing of the following brand new interview is pretty great. Dirk and I – along with 78 of our porn colleagues – were recently interviewed for a new book entitled “Around the World in Eighty Gay Porn Stars.” We were all asked the same 20 questions, and our answers are printed verbatim in the book. Since Dirk and I wrote our answers separately, I thought it would be fun to share them as a sort of “he said/he said” feature. Most of our responses are below; for the bonus question “Are you a porn star when having sex off-camera?” (as well as answers to the same 20 questions from the likes of Buck Angel, Conner Habib, Marco Wilson, and many more) you’ll have to buy the book. Happily, it’s just $6.75 at Amazon.com!


How, when and why did you become involved in the porn industry?

JESSE: Back in 2011 I met Hunter Marx and Ethan Anders in Saugatuck, Michigan. The three of us hooked up and had a really great time; I didn’t even know they were a porn star couple until Hunter mentioned something in passing the next day. I remember thinking, “Wow, what a fun life they must have. I wonder if I could do it too.” Coincidentally, about two weeks later I ran into an old friend of mine, Roman Wright, who had worked with TitanMen and other studios. I asked him if he thought I could be a porn star too. He said that while I probably could do it, he actually advised me against it; he thought I wouldn’t like being in the public eye because of all the potential for criticism.

In any case, Roman mentioned to Titan’s casting director that I’d been curious about the industry, and the next day I got a call from the studio asking me if I wanted to work with them. I thought about it for several weeks, and the more I considered it, the more it sounded like fun. I felt like I could handle the criticism, and I decided I had nothing to lose by at least giving it a shot… and besides, if I never tried it, I’d never know what it was like. So I jumped in… and I loved it. Still do! Although to this day I don’t read reviews of my scenes.

DIRK: I’d been involved in the NYC BDSM scene for some years when I befriended online Paul Wilde, director of Titan’s ROUGH line. He said it was a rare guy who actually knew his way around a hank of rope or a flogger who would also look the part on camera, but that I could fit the bill; would I be interested in porn. I politely declined, as I didn’t think I was physically anything anyone would want to see on camera. He understood, and didn’t press, but we stayed friends, and every so often he would reiterate the invitation. Two years later I realized that he was the pro and probably had a better sense for who had potential than I did. So I agreed. I figured I’d make one, maybe two films, I’d have had some fun, and that would be the end of it. Four years now after I’d said yes, I’ve worked with some dozen studios, filmed sixty-odd scenes, and am still going strong!

 
Does your family know, and if so, are they supportive?

JESSE: Last year, my mother found out that I make porn. She accidentally saw my bank account statement with a deposit from Titan Media, wondered what Titan was, and googled it… and I was on the front page of Titan’s website. She kept it to herself for several months before we finally talked about it, but when we finally did talk, she was great. She had been upset at first, but then she read my blog and saw my Facebook page and realized that working in porn had made me happier than I’d ever been. She’s still not a huge fan of the idea, but she’s been incredibly supportive.

I’m also glad to say that my family has expanded as a result of my porn work. Shortly after I started working with Titan, I met my partner Dirk Caber, a fellow actor who has filmed with Titan, COLT, Kink, and many other studios. We worked together at the Titan booth at the Folsom Street Fair in 2011 and have been joined at the hip ever since. We’ve even filmed four scenes together! He’s a truly amazing man, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him. He recently “came out” to his family about our porn careers, and they’ve been awesome too; in fact, his father said that the only bad thing about it is that he doesn’t have anyone he can brag about it to!

DIRK: They do. Sometime before Christmas last year, partly because Jesse and I were becoming ever more publicly known outside the adult world as industry figures, I sat down with my parents over dinner for a second “coming out”. In preparation for their scepticism, I prefaced the revelation by listing all the awesome things that have come into my life as a result of being part of the porn world, from close friends to non-porn work to the opportunity to travel… to the coup de grâce, the love of my life, fellow porn actor Jesse Jackman, whom they adore. When I finally revealed what I’d come to say, my folks of course had to get online and look us up, and decided that we must be famous. I’d figured they’d probably be of the mind that I’m an adult and can make my own life decisions, but I was entirely unprepared for my dad’s response: “The only thing I don’t like about this is that I’ve got nobody to brag about it to!”

 
Do you find your job has an effect on your relationships?

JESSE: Not really. Except for improving my confidence a bit, I don’t think porn has really changed me all that much. My friends are still friends, my family is still my family, and Dirk is still my Dirk.

DIRK: It has, though perhaps not in the way you might expect. I fell in love with a fellow porn star. Before I started in the industry that would have sounded like a pairing destined to fail, and indeed we were even warned against it by colleagues. Recognizing that we both have lives and passions and families outside of porn, which are even stronger ties to each other than this little short-lived avocation we also share, however, we decided to give it a go. We’re now nearly three years in, a major record for both of us as far as relationship durations go, and we’re only more in love than ever. As far as either of us sees it, we’ve found our life partner, and to both our astonishments we met through porn.

 
Describe your perfect romantic date.

JESSE: It involves food, of course, as I’ve always been a major foodie. We’d find an out-of-the-way restaurant with a funky vibe, friendly service, and, naturally, kick-ass grub. Dessert is a must, because it gives us a great excuse to go home and work off the extra calories.

DIRK: Hmmmm. Jesse and me at home on the sofa. Football, baseball, or hockey on the TV. An extra large Hawaiian pizza, vodka, and maybe ice cream. Dozing off with my head on his chest, or the other way around… And then burning off all those calories in the sling a few hours later.

 
Where is your favourite city and why?

JESSE: This answer might seem like a cop-out, but it’s Boston. My home. There are so many things to love about this city… the culture, the character, and the history… and yes, even the weather. London, San Francisco, and Montreal, however, are right up there.

DIRK: I have different favourites for different reasons and at different times. Prime ‘urbs for me would be New York City, London, Chicago, Amsterdam, Berlin, Rio de Janiero, and San Francisco. Usually it’s the combination of high culture, steamy underbelly, and the friends who live there that make it a city I’d thrive in.

 
What’s your typical weekend?

JESSE: Dirk and I usually sleep in a bit, mostly because it’s so difficult to extricate each other from the tangle of arms and legs, which usually results from a night in bed together (and yes, the extrication process often involves sex). Then we’ll go to brunch (a.k.a. “gay breakfast”) and head to Starbucks to do some writing, or hit the gym for a couple of hours. The evening usually involves something social, like having dinner with friends or going out to a club.

There are a couple of big exceptions, however. The first involves sports: I play flag football for several months of the year which takes up a lot of my Saturdays, and when the Patriots are playing on Sunday you can’t rip me away from the TV. The other is travel: Dirk and I both love to travel, so on any given weekend you might find us in New York or Chicago or Montreal or San Francisco or any number of other destinations. My friends have even started to ask me when I’m going to be in town rather than out of town.

DIRK: There isn’t one. Truth be told, with two essentially “freelance” careers going on, I work as much on the weekend as I do during the week. Traveling as much as I do also erodes any sense of a seven-day cycle. Add to that the necessity of daily workouts and domestic routines, and my Saturday and Sunday don’t differ much from any weekday.

 
Breakfast, Afternoon Tea or Cocktails?

JESSE: Breakfast all the way. It’s my favourite meal of the day, especially when it involves blueberry pancakes.

DIRK: Breakfast. Jesse wakes up horny, but I wake up hungry. We usually take care of Jesse’s needs first, and then it’s time to start the coffee and cook Oeufs Quel Surprise!, our almost invariable breakfast repast: eggs scrambled with green vegetables, chicken or tuna, and cheese.

 
Who’s your favourite author?

JESSE: Douglas Adams. I liked the Hitchhiker’s “Trilogy” and the Dirk Gently books well enough, but his Last Chance to See has cemented him at the top of my favorite author list for a long time to come.

DIRK: I love so many. Graham Swift, Richard Russo, Neil Gaiman, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Isaac Asimov, Douglas Adams, Chris Adrian, Alessandro Baricco, Vladimir Nabakov, Richard Russo, Jonathan Letham, Jasper Fforde, Philip K. Dick, Italo Calvino, C. S. Lewis, Jonathan Franzen, Umberto Eco, Michael Chabon…

 
What’s your happiest childhood memory?

JESSE: When I was a kid I was quite musically inclined. After a couple of years trying to learn piano, and after brief flirtations with the violin, clarinet, and snare drum, I finally settled on baritone horn. (I’d actually wanted to play tuba, but was told that it was too large for me to carry.. I really enjoyed performing, especially when I got the chance to do it with others. At age nine I played in my first public concert as part of a youth ensemble in the Grand Rotunda at Boston’s Quincy Market. Our program included selections from Mame and Hello, Dolly, among other things. I remember playing my heart out and being so, so proud of what I’d accomplished.

I put the horn away in high school, but it has a habit of reappearing in my life from time to time; I played it in a drum and bugle corps for a couple of years in college, and then in 2013 I dusted it off again to play with the Lesbian and Gay Band Association in President Obama’s second inauguration. (Dirk, a professional tuba player, just might have a hand in convincing me to do that.)

DIRK: I must have been five or six. In the middle of the night, in the dead of the Maine winter, my father woke me up, bundled me up in my heavy blanket with a bear on it (which is still on my bed to this day), and carried me outside into the cold. He and mom and I stared up at the sky for I don’t know how long at the ghostly flickering drapes of blue-green light. I’ve read somewhere that I was lucky enough to witness one of the most extraordinary displays of aurora borealis that far south in the twentieth century. There was no wind, and everything was perfectly still. There was no moon, and at least in my memory, there was more star than there was sky between the stars. The ocean reflected the light, the snow reflected the light, the windows of the house reflected the light… There are Maxfield Parrish paintings of night scenes with a cool surreal illumination to them that remind me of that night.

 
Which Disney character best describes you?

JESSE: Chewbacca. Hey, he’s Disney now, right?

DIRK: Archimedes.

 
What’s your favourite sexual position and why?

JESSE: Missionary, because I get to look into my partner’s eyes.

DIRK: If it involves Jesse, I’m pretty happy with it. But I’m pretty versatile. And game.

 
What are your thoughts on the rise of barebacking in porn and do you have any health concerns?

JESSE: I’ve found that certain elements within the porn industry are glamorizing the practice of barebacking, eroticizing it as something exciting and hot. I believe this sets a very bad example. The first association that most people make with bareback sex is the risk of HIV transmission, but there are plenty of other STDs out there (gonorrhea, Chlamydia, hepatitis, and syphilis, just to name a few), and condoms currently represent our best blanket defense against their transmission.

I’ve heard stories from my friends in the escorting business of clients who insist on barebacking because “so-and-so porn star does it.” Barebacking in porn sends the message that unprotected sex is okay, and potentially encourages people to gamble unnecessarily with their health. One of the reasons I chose to work with Titan is that the studio eroticizes safer sex, and gives me an opportunity to set what I believe is a good example rather than a perilous one.

DIRK: I feel that adult men should be able to tell the difference between the fantasy of a film and the practical concerns of reality. It’s certain that younger gay men garner misconceptions of what constitutes reasonable sex practice from porn, but that’s only because other institutions, family and schools and such, are too cowardly in the United States to be the responsible sources of this knowledge that they should be. What really pisses me off is the blatant proselytizing of raw sex I’m seeing in a few bareback studio productions of late. These studios tout recent developments in HIV-preventative medication as carte-blanche justifications to actively dispense with condoms, sometimes actively on camera.

They completely gloss over the more deadly threat of Hepatitis C and the strains of antibody-resistant gonorrhea on the rise in a few parts of the world now, which probably won’t kill you but can leave you maimed and impotent. There’s the certain possibility that being as freely libidinous now as we were in the 70’s might produce yet another epidemic, much as that one rather devastatingly did. Returning to HIV, in the past six years I myself have lost two friends (and nearly a third) to HIV-related infections, one to Hodgkin’s lymphoma and one to cranial encephalitis. All were on medication, all were undetectable only shortly before, but for certain reasons the medicine stopped working (luckily in the third case, only temporarily). It is true that HIV is tremendously more manageable an infection these days than it was twenty years ago, but anyone who tells you that you can’t die from it anymore isn’t telling you the whole story.

I have nothing against bareback porn in and of itself, but for a studio to actively and blithely suggest that there’s no longer anything unsafe about unprotected sex is just beyond reprehensible. Personally, I feel that there are times and situations where unprotected sex is entirely appropriate in real life; committed partners have every reason to want to enjoy that degree of intimacy, for instance. I wouldn’t be so silly as to dictate that all sex must involve a condom, but I understand the risks I incur as an active sexual creature. Hence I protect myself, and my partners, accordingly and appropriately off-camera, and will always project the responsibility I feel on-camera.

 
What’s the most pleasant porn adventure you’ve had?

JESSE: This whole journey, albeit not without its challenges, has been great. Here’s one particular moment, though, that I’ll always look back on with a smile. When I was starting to come out in my early 20s (I didn’t have sex until I was 22… late bloomer, I know!) the shape of my cock was a major source of internalized embarrassment (when hard, it has a dramatic downward bend). I used to be very nervous that anyone seeing it for the first time would get really freaked out, or even laugh at me. With experience, though, I’ve learned that there’s a multitude of unique things I can do with it, and no one has ever said anything negative about it. But the best moment was my first day on the Titan set back in 2011 when director Brian Mills described me as having a “dick made for cock-sucking.” He said it in such a perfectly matter-of-fact yet complimentary manner that, perhaps for the first time in my life, my penis felt like an asset instead of a liability. And it felt pretty amazing to know that I could be successful in the industry, even if I’m shaped like a boomerang.

DIRK: Filming the black and white sequence with Josh West for director Jake Deckard’s film for Ray Dragon, Men in the Sand. Josh has been the best of colleagues and is a good friend; the joy and playfulness and affection, which I’m told is so palpable in that scene, is entirely real.

 
What’s the most unpleasant porn adventure you’ve had?

JESSE: In 2013 I filmed a movie with legendary porn director Joe Gage called Caught in the Act. My scene partner was Jessy Ares, who’s a great guy… and very hung. Towards the end of the oral part of the scene, I… um… actually puked while deep-throating him. A lot. But I didn’t want to disrupt production, and I didn’t want to do anything to upset Joe, so I wrapped my lips tightly around Jessy’s cock, pulled back, and swallowed hard. I didn’t spill a drop, and we continued on. After we’d finished filming, I shared the story with the production team over dinner; it turns out nobody had even noticed what happened. Disgusting as it was, I’m actually really proud that I took one for the team.

DIRK: I’ve been lucky; there haven’t been many. And the few odd unfortunate moments I have had I think just don’t think are interesting enough to bear repeating.

 
How do you deal with fan requests, being recognised etc?

JESSE: While some of the details of my life are more public than usual because of the nature of what I do, there are some aspects which I choose to keep private. Family, friends, and my non-porn professional life (I have a day job in the healthcare industry) are pretty much off-limits. I draw a sort of curtain between the two parts of my life; I call it the “velvet veil.” As long as fan requests stay on the public side of the veil, I do my best to oblige; I’m happy to answer questions about my experiences in the industry, for example, but not about my family.

Being recognized in public is a bit of a trip for me; I’m basically just an ordinary guy from the suburbs who has a white-collar desk job (albeit with an interesting side-career), so it’s a bit weird that I can be walking down the street in another fucking country and someone knows who I am. I’m always appreciative when it happens, though, even if I’m still a little dumbstruck that it happens at all.

DIRK: Fans are absolutely no problem. Really, nearly everyone I’ve had the pleasure of meeting or interacting with has been charming and friendly and occasionally a little awkward (me, intimidating? you gotta be kidding). I just wish I had enough time in a day to be able to reach out more.

 
Do you think gay porn objectifies men?

JESSE: Sure… but I think men generally tend to objectify people, be it straight men objectifying women or gay men objectifying men. Porn just capitalizes on that phenomenon.

DIRK: Of course it does. And I’m pretty sure there’s nothing inherently wrong or degrading about that. For me, working in porn has been empowering, increasing my confidence and by sometimes surprising twists and turns enriching many non-porn aspects of my life. Practically, though: do we really think we, as gay men, would stop objectifying each other if there were no porn? We are male, after all!


 
Are you a porn star when having sex off-camera?

JESSE: No. Well… yes. I am who I am when I’m having sex, whether or not it’s on camera… so I guess in that regard I’m a porn star all the time, or none of the time, depending on how you look at it.

DIRK: Nope. I’m passionate and goofy and sensual and all that, but I’m way too much into having my fun and participating in my partner’s fun to be worried about what our sex looks like.


 
Do you see a long future for yourself in porn?

JESSE: That’s hard to say. Jerry Greenfield, one of the founders of Ben & Jerry’s (Mint Chocolate Cookie ice cream for the win, by the way), has a saying: “If it’s not fun, why do it?” I wholeheartedly agree with that sentiment; as long as making porn is fun and rewarding, I’ll do it. And I’m still having fun.

DIRK: Porn is nearly never a long-term avocation. Sure, Casey Williams and Dean Monroe are legends with 20-year careers, but the average porn run is only two years. I’m closing in on four, so I figure I’m already cashing in on that “long future” aspect. I also started out perhaps ten years older than many guys are when they retire. I figure long as I’m having fun and guys out there still want to watch, though, I’ll keep making more.

 
Any advice for guys wanting to get into the porn industry?

JESSE: First off, take time to consider the ramifications of your decision. Will your job be cool with it? Your family? Your friends? Don’t assume they’ll never find out, because they will. And if you do decide to give porn a go, start at the top. Apply to work with the best of the best; don’t settle for some fly-by-night internet outfit that’s really just a guy with a webcam in some sleazy hotel room. Also, keep in mind that the average porn “career” only lasts about two years, and the amount of work you’ll get won’t necessarily be consistent, and it frankly doesn’t pay enough to be your sole source of income. It’s fun while it lasts, but don’t expect it to last forever.

Finally, when you become a commercial porn performer, you’re really creating and marketing a “brand.” It’s up to you to determine what that brand will be. One component of that decision is whether or not to go condomless. While the decision is ultimately yours, be aware that some of the top studios will not work with you if you’ve filmed any bareback scenes elsewhere. Barebacking — even so-called “responsible” barebacking — still puts people at greater risk for contracting not just HIV but other STDs as well… and certain companies don’t want to promote that brand. So if you want to last longer in this industry, it’s better to start out only doing high-end condom films. Condom-only will help maintain your personal brand from the start; you can make other decisions later in your career if you so choose. If you do go raw, just keep in mind that besides potentially jeopardizing your health and the health of your partners — both on-screen and in your private life — you’ll be limiting your professional options down the road.

DIRK: I’ve far more advice than you have space for here. I think the first thing I’d ever say is that porn is something you will do for fun first and for a little extra cash second; nobody can count on porn to be a primary source of income, and there is essentially no long term career in it. Don’t give up your day job, and definitely have a post-porn plan for your life.

Second would be to know that there are generally two career trajectories: do a ton of work just as you start out, be a big flash in the pan, and burn out in two or three years, or pace yourself, choose the higher-production-value projects and higher-level studios, don’t glut your market, and work longer. Know which of those you’d prefer to follow.

Third, make friends in the industry, especially with your co-stars. There’s no union for porn stars, so when things go wrong (and they do), your colleagues are what safety net and support circles you have. It also makes for better on-screen chemistry if you legitimately like each other, and having friends who mention you to other directors and studios as someone they’d love to work with again can only mean more work for you.

Fourth, keep tabs on your health, both physically and emotionally/mentally. I don’t need to go into the fact that even in a safe-sex-only studio it’s still possible to catch an STI (it’s happened even to me), so get tested regularly. More insidiously, as this work so involves sex, which is so much an aspect of how we identify our self-worth and manhood, it’s very easy to take a lull in work as a slight, or conversely to let the thrill of celebrity spin out of control. If you’re of a depressive nature or have manic tendencies, there’s a lot of forces in the porn industry that can only enhance either of those. Be vigilant, and if you sense your balance slipping, nobody will think the worse of you for taking a break for a while to regain your equilibrium, and you can only come back stronger, healthier, and wiser.

Fifth, remember that porn is in fact work, and often you have to find a way to make it fun. You’re not gonna get rich, so you may as well at least enjoy it, no?

 
What have you found to be the most surprising thing about doing porn?

JESSE: I’d have to say I’ve been surprised by how much I’ve learned about myself through my work in the industry. For example, I realized that I’m a far more confident person than I’ve ever given myself credit for, and with that confidence comes a level of pride I never thought I could attain. I don’t just make porn; I make the very best porn I possibly can, and I’m damn proud of that fact… which means that I can be proud of who I am, no matter what I choose to do.

DIRK: I think I’m most surprised by how much my porn life and real life have melded with each other. I’d started out carefully maintaining the usual “velvet veil” between my on-screen persona and my real-life self. As that curtain has proven difficult to keep completely closed, I’ve discovered that having a colorful little side career has been actually oddly advantageous to my arts career, often helping make me more memorable and hence more likely to be hired.

Friends have nearly universally been supportive, even those I’d always considered more conservative. I’ve already mentioned my own family’s response. Going in the other direction, being able to demonstrate life and skills outside of porn has definitely intrigued fans and encouraged them to engage on a deeper levels than “I loved your scene in…”, and has led to some really interesting dialogues on my Facebook page and on my blog. I don’t think I’m quite prepared to list “porn star” on my professional résumé yet, but perhaps in another five years…?

18 replies
  1. Jack McNulty
    Jack McNulty says:

    These two well adjusted guys are bringing back the joy and the fun to a part of human life that seemed very much in need of refurbishing. Their sexual play keeps them obviously present to one another in an attractive personal way. Even when working on film with other partners their fire gives warmth as well as light. I believe because they are Renaissance Men at heart their sex comes across as grounded, friendly and ennobling. IMO Dirk and Jesse are guys who have the Words and the Music.

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    • rhonda
      rhonda says:

      i love how open and honest the two of you are about your relationship , my foster brother carl had a big problem with that , his partner vin was devastated after carls death to find out just how much carl had decieved him about and kept hidden . its very important i believe to have an open avenue of communication and that in the end will help a loving couple , stay a loving couple .

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  2. Stuart Dummit
    Stuart Dummit says:

    Really quite brilliant from both parties. Thoughtful, lucid and erudite, Jesse Jackman and Dirk Caber, with two distinct and facile strokes of the pen, validate both the gay porn industry and the depth and breadth of same sex relationships. Reading their replies to the questions got me thinking of them as just a great couple of guys with interesting jobs and fresh, grounded and honest views of the world. And Dirk’s favorite authors list? Wow. I’d love to sit down and talk about those…and his music, which is awesome.

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  3. Liz
    Liz says:

    Seeing your replies side-by-side is very revealing. As I was reading along, there were a couple of times where I stopped and thought “wait… this is Dirks reply?” because it was something I’d expect from Jesse, not Dirk. This was especially true when describing your perfect romantic date. (Which, interestingly, both end the same way. LOL)

    The next time Dirk wonders why he should post on FB when you share so much about both of you, please refer him back to this. Yes you share a life (and side career), but you have different opinions and interesting perspectives.

    Thanks for sharing.

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  4. angel zuniga
    angel zuniga says:

    What a rare gift for two people in this industry and not to mention being gay to be so grounded and close. I have said this to you both before I truly respect you guys and think you guys are amazing. To be able to have this career and a love for your partner the way you guys do is by far the most beautiful thing I’ve seen. Keep up the Good work guys. Much love and respect,
    -A

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  5. Frank
    Frank says:

    A quick question: Dirk, you spell words the British way — favoUrite, tonNE, etc. How come? You said your favorite childhood memory was of the Northern Lights in Maine, but did you go to school in Britain?

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      Oof, I tried to catch all those. Nope, he’s a Mainer through and through. See, the book’s authors — who are English — changed our responses to the British spelling. I did my best to catch them and change them back lest anyone start thinking we were schooled across the pond (don’t I wish! I love the UK) but I guess I must have missed a few. I’ll go back and fix them when I’ve got a few minutes. 🙂

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  6. Jason (Jdawgie) Loper
    Jason (Jdawgie) Loper says:

    Hello Jesse, I really appreciate how open you and Dirk are. Wether we are friends, family, fans, aquaintance or whatever… you guys still are very candid. I wish more had the realness like you guys do. I actually have a question for you, so I see Titan has you as an “Exclusive Model”, and yet Dirk is not… does that mean Dirk works for who he wants to and you have signed contract saying you will only work for Titan? I could just assume, even if the word has ASS in it.. lol, but what fun would that be !

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      Hey buddy. Thanks! Just trying to be open and honest about my experiences, that’s all. Writing about them helps put them in perspective, y’know?

      About the exclusivity thing… yup, I signed an agreement to work only with Titan. Initially it was for one year, but I’ve renewed it twice since then. There are some perks — the pay is a bit better, they host this blog on their servers, I get to be on the cover of the DVDs etc — and they give me just enough work to keep me happy (but don’t overexpose me). Dirk isn’t an exclusive, which means he can work with whomever he wants to. He’s done most of his films with Titan and has a great working relationship with the guys, but he’s also worked for a bunch of other studios (his full list of films is at http://dirkcaber.com/movies, by the way, and mine is at http://jessejackman.xxx/movies). He gets the opportunity to film more scenes and is in complete control of where and when he works, which suits his schedule better. So yeah… our respective situations work well for us.

      Hope that answers your question!

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      • Jason
        Jason says:

        Yes you answered my question nicely 🙂 Glad I got clarification what “Exclusive” ment I have been approached by a few companies, but I have been sorta leary to do it.. because I wouldn’t want to be forced into anything I wouldn’t want to do. I have done just photo shoot’s for a few bear sites cause they were looking for Ginger’s.. lol I mean who knew gingers were a hot commodity. I mean heck I am a ginger and I like other gingers GRRRR! I just want it to be fun, if I did decide to do it!

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        • Jesse
          Jesse says:

          Cool… if you’ve weighed the ramifications of your friends, family, partner(s), and employer finding out (because in today’s interconnected world, they will), go for it! One other thing to keep in mind… each studio has different arrangements, but my particular “contract” with Titan isn’t really a contract but an agreement; we’re each allowed to walk away at any time, with the understanding that we’ll have a good reason and give plenty of advance notice. It’s an arrangement that works well for us, but as I say, every studio is different. I guess my point here is always read the fine print, and don’t agree to anything you’re uncomfortable with.

          And yes, you’re right… gingers are in HUGE demand right now! 🙂

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          • Jason
            Jason says:

            I appreciate you always getting back to me! Yeah with all the ginger-ness going around right now… makes me wannta start a GINGER PRIDE or dance event… as long as everyone is in a jockstrap.. lol Hugs Handsome!

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  7. Jake
    Jake says:

    It’s great to get to know more about you two.

    Forgive me if you get this question, a lot, or it seems forward, but how big are you down there fully erect? I ask, because I’m a legit 8 inches, but I don’t look that big and I wonder if it’s the curve that accentuates the size? I wish I had a curve like that. I don’t stand straight up, but point very slightly downward and to the right and I hate it. 🙁

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    • Jesse
      Jesse says:

      I measure at 8″, but that doesn’t really take the curve into account… my guess is that if I were “straight as an arrow” (as the saying goes) I’d be around 9″. Once upon a time I considered getting surgery to correct the curve but I’ve since thought better of it. Hey, by the way, remember that every curve has a different “sweet spot” factor… it took me a while to learn how to use mine effectively… keep experimenting as much as possible! 😉

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