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Interview: The Grabbys are Coming!

The 2014 Grabby Awards are here! One of the top awards ceremonies in the gay porn industry takes place in Chicago tomorrow night, and TitanMen’s Dick Danger is nominated for a whopping 9 Grabbys, including Best Picture! Oh, and I’m nominated for a little award called Best Actor… how cool is that?

Anyway, the folks who run the award show recently interviewed me for the latest edition of Grab Magazine, which hit Chicago newsstands on Wednesday… you can read it below. (By the way, if you want to check out Dick Danger for yourself, the entire movie is now streaming in HD at TitanMen.) Looking forward to tomorrow night!
 

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Interview: A little something for you to GRAB…

I recently sat down with GRAB Magazine in Chicago for a interview that’ll be published on May 20th — just in time for IML and the Grabbys — but with their permission I’m giving you a sneak peek at a few of the questions now. For the entire interview, keep an eye out for the May 20th edition of GRAB! The weekly magazine is available in printed form in the Chicago area and online at grabchicago.com. And speaking of the Grabbys, please don’t forget to vote for my film Dick Danger to win the Fan Favorite award!


GRAB: Who was the first person you had sex with when a camera was involved?

Jesse: Several years ago I hooked up with a guy from out of town who asked me if he could film us while we were fucking. The guy was hot and kind of mysterious, and I was really turned on by the idea, so I went along with it. It was really fun, kind of like being an exhibitionist without anyone watching. I never saw the guy again, and I have no idea what happened to the footage… maybe it’ll show up online someday, who knows.

GRAB: First day on a set filming your very first sex scene… what was it like?

Jesse: I loved it. My scene partner was Hunter Marx — a very sexy Titan exclusive whom I’d coincidentally met (and hooked up with) eariler that year — so I knew we had great chemistry. But the best part was when director Brian Mills, on first seeing my hard cock, described me as having a “dick made for cocksucking.” See, the shape of my cock had been a major source of internalized embarrassment for me (when it’s hard it has a dramatic downward bend, a condition called Peyronie’s disease). I used to be very nervous that anyone seeing it for the first time would get really freaked out, or even laugh at me. With experience, though, I started to learn that there’s a lot of unique things I can do with it, and some guys find it really hot. But when Brian said what he did in such a perfectly matter-of-fact yet complimentary manner, perhaps for the first time in my life my penis felt like an asset instead of a liability. And it felt pretty amazing to know that I could be successful in the industry, even if I’m shaped like a boomerang.

GRAB: What did your friends say when you first started doing porn?

Jesse: Almost everyone was really supportive. They saw how excited I was about it, and thought it was a great move for me, one that would boost my self-confidence. The only exceptions were two exes of mine. We’re still quite close, and both of them showed concern that I’d be swept up by the industry… that it would somehow change me. I’ve managed to keep a pretty level head, though, and both of them have since realized that it was a healthy and positive decision.

GRAB: Are you a boxer or brief kind of guy?

Jesse: Briefs. (Specifically, Nasty Pig briefs.) Makes things easier. If I wore boxers, I’d probably be hard all the time from all that flopping around. (Doesn’t take much!) And when I’m feeling naughty… a jockstrap, of course!
 

Romantisme à la Porno: ZIP Magazine interviews me and Dirk together!

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Here’s our first couples interview! Dirk and I recently sat down with ZIP Magazine in Montreal to talk a little about our experiences as a real-life industry couple. The interview was conducted in English, but translated into French for the February 14th edition of ZIP… yup, Valentine’s Day!

The English transcript is below; click here to view the original French-language publication, with pictures.


JESSE JACKMAN ET DIRK CABER: DU ROMANTISME À LA PORNO
Jesse Jackman and Dirk Caber: A Porn Romance — Interview by Marc Antonios
 
Bearded, hairy, sexy, manly, well-developed and muscular bodies, with strong thighs and arms and an infectious smile… this is how we can describe Dirk Caber and Jesse Jackman, one of the few couples in the gay porn industry. They represent the quintessential male “daddy” and bear; Caber has even been selected “Daddy Porn Star of the Year!” Both natives of New England, they live in Boston and make frequent trips to California for filming, as was the case earlier this year. They also find time to visit friends in Montreal, or to travel to Toronto for events such as the BlacKKnighT party (organized by Fétiche Armada).

Dirk Caber is a “COLT Man” — while not an exclusive, he works regularly with the illustrious studio. His partner Jesse Jackman is a TitanMen exclusive. Both are versatile and have starred in dozens of scenes, sometimes together! Caber has worked with several other studios, including TitanMen, Men.com, BoundGods, Bound Jocks, Men on the Edge, and Bound in Public, as well as numerous European studios like Men At Play, AlphaMales, and UK Naked Men. Jackman, meanwhile, is larger and a bit heftier than his boyfriend. A TitanMen exclusive for over two years, he’s starred in Caught in the Act: A Joe Gage Chronicle (with Jessy Ares), Pounded (with Landon Conrad), Wide Awake (Johnny Parker), Extra Firm (with his husband Dirk in a versatile scene), Loud and Nasty (a fetish film, once again with Dirk!), Strobe (with Casey Williams), Fast Friends (Mack Manus), his first film Surveillance (in which he gets topped by Hunter Marx), and his most recent film, the comic-book-inspired Dick Danger with Rogan Richards. On this Valentine’s Day we are fortunate to have, for the first time in ZIP, in an interview with a real-life porn couple. Happy reading!

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FIRST OF ALL, HELLO TO BOTH OF YOU AND THANK YOU FOR ACCEPTING THIS INVITATION FROM ZIP.

DIRK: Thank you for having us!

JESSE: Yes, we’re honored.

 
HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN A COUPLE?

DIRK: Feels like forever! But it’s been about two and a half years.

JESSE: Actually it’s been two years, four months, eleven days, twelve hours, and ten minutes. Not that I’m counting or anything.

DIRK: And THERE you have the definition of our two different personalities.

 
WERE YOU BOTH PORN ACTORS WHEN YOU MET?

JESSE: Yes, we were. I’d only filmed two movies with TitanMen (Surveillance and Incubus 2), but Dirk had been working in the industry for a little over a year with about a dozen scenes under his belt. When we met, I recognized Dirk immediately from TitanMen’s Sting, which is still one of my favorite Titan films.

 
HOW DID YOU GUYS MEET?

DIRK: That was kind of related, actually. Jesse had just signed with Titan and was having a couple misgivings about his decision to enter porn. A mutual friend in San Francisco mentioned that he knew someone who had been in the industry a while and who might be able to help him come to some understanding. And so our buddy introduced us. I think he knew we’d be instant friends, but whether he knew how quickly romance might bloom…? Well, Jesse thinks he knew.

 
IS IT DIFFICULT TO BE A COUPLE AND DO PORN? AND HOW DO YOU MANAGE A LIFE IN PORN?

DIRK: When we first considered formalizing the relationship, our friends in the industry all warned us against it. They said one of us would always have the ascendant career, and that professional jealousy between us could cause problems. They’d seen this polarity ruin otherwise promising relationships before. We considered this, but then decided that, since porn is really only a fairly small part of our lives, and that we have so much more in common outside of porn, that we’d give it a try. Now we make a joke out of it; when one of us seems to be getting more work or is working with co-stars the other really wants to work with, one of us will quip, “I’m feeling a tad left out here!” and we’ll both laugh. We know it’s cyclical; in a month the other one is saying that. It becomes easy just to be as supportive and enthusiastic of Jesse’s successes as my own this way.

JESSE: I totally agree. Sure, there’s some playful competition between the two of us, but we don’t take it seriously. At the end of the day, we are 100% supportive of each other, no matter what we do or whom we get to work with.

 
MANY “PORN COUPLES” HAVE FAILED. WHAT IS YOUR SECRET IN MAKING IT WORK?

DIRK: As we say, our relationship is based on a far richer life than just porn. We have a real life together, and porn is just a nice bit of spice to that. Add to that our day jobs and careers, our families and friends, our love of music and art and just about anything nerdy and science-based… When you then consider that porn is only for a short time relatively speaking — nobody is going to want to watch our septuagenarian asses fuck in thirty years — and that this other stuff is the stuff that will carry us into our nineties, porn then takes on a certain far smaller proportion.

JESSE: Also, the guiding principle of our relationship is something we call the One Rule: “Never bring home anything you don’t want to share.” When you think about it, you realize that it works on all sorts of levels.

DIRK: That rule saves us a lot of unfounded jealousy when we can feel that secure in each other. We limit each other as little as possible, and just want to feel included in each other’s lives as much as possible.

 
YOU’VE FILMED SOME SCENES TOGETHER. IS IT EASIER TO DO A SCENE SINCE YOU’RE A COUPLE OR IS IT THE SAME AS FILMING WITH OTHER GUYS?

DIRK: Working with Jesse makes some things easier but it does pose other challenges. We know each other really well and we know what turns each other on…

JESSE: Yeah, but at the same time some of the things we do at home don’t always translate that well into porn. There’s a difference between making love and just having sex. When we’re at home, we make love… but that’s so difficult to capture on camera because the emotions aren’t necessarily visual. So we have to play up the sex element a bit on film, and it ends up being a little less about the love and a lot more about the act.

DIRK: Porn is essentially a visual medium. Okay, yeah, there’s sound too, but for guys like us, sex at home is about the tactile and olfactory stimulation as much as the visual and aural. In real life all that becomes part of the connection between us. And while I think that if two guys on camera have that connection it only enhances what can be conveyed on camera, it’s just not something which can be filmed.

JESSE: Exactly.

 
WHAT BROUGHT YOU BOTH TO PORN IN THE FIRST PLACE?

JESSE: I met Hunter Marx and Ethan Anders, a porn star couple who both worked with Titan, in the summer of 2011. We hooked up and had a really great time. I didn’t even know they were porn stars, actually, until Hunter mentioned something the next day. I remember thinking, “Wow, what a fun life they must have. I wonder if I could do it too.” Coincidentally, about two weeks later I ran into an old friend of mine, Roman Wright, who had also worked with Titan. I asked him if he thought I could do it. He actually advised me against trying it; he thought I wouldn’t like being in the public eye because of all the criticism. (He was right: I still don’t like to read reviews of my films.) In any case, the next day Roman told the casting director at Titan about me, and I got a call from the studio asking me if I wanted to work with them. I thought about it for several weeks, but the more I thought about it, the more it sounded like fun. I felt like I could handle the criticism, and I decided I had nothing to lose by at least trying it… so I did. And I loved it. Still do! Although to this day I don’t read reviews of my scenes.

DIRK: I came to porn through my background in the NYC BDSM world. I had a bit of a reputation for knowing my stuff, even teaching lessons in SM technique and safety. I’d made a friend online who turned out to be Paul Wilde, the director of the hardcore “Rough” line at Titan. He said that it was rare to find a dom in the scene who both knew his stuff and looked the role, but that if I’d ever consider porn, I’d be that man. I was flattered, but politely declined; I didn’t think I looked like someone who should ever have sex on camera! He understood, but re-extended the invitation every so often. Two years later, I decided “Why not?” I thought I’d make one or two films, and the studio would find someone younger, more hung, better looking, and move on. I’d be able to say “Hey, I’d done porn!” and that would be the end of it. Three and a half years and fifty-odd scenes later, and I’m still at it.

 
YOU’VE DONE SCENES WITH MANY SITES AND STUDIOS, BOTH TOGETHER AND SEPARATELY. WHAT IS THE EXPERIENCE YOU GET FROM WORKING WITH ALL THESE DIFFERENT PRODUCERS AND DIRECTORS?

JESSE: I’ve worked with five different directors, all with Titan; each of them has had a unique style, from the meticulous to the laissez-faire. There are many paths to producing a good scene, and all of them are experts in getting there. I sometimes wonder if fans can spot the difference in styles like I’ve learned to do.

DIRK: It’s fascinating to see the different working styles of different directors and studios, and see the different means by which they approach a scene. That diversity of experience has definitely helped me learn a variety of techniques myself when coming to a new challenge in a scene.

 
IN GENERAL, WHAT IS YOUR EXPERIENCE IN THE PORN INDUSTRY?

DIRK: In general, I’ve had a blast. But I came to the industry with my eyes wide open, having had an ex-boyfriend and many friends already in the industry. Hence I didn’t have most of the misconceptions and expectations that I think a lot of younger less-informed guys tend to arrive with, and hence I’ve not had any reason to be disappointed. Being a porn star is like being an artist or a musician; you’re never going to get rich, and fame in this industry is fleeting at best. If you’re doing it for any more ambitious reason than just the fun of doing it, you’re most likely going to be disappointed. I’m in this because I really enjoy doing it.

JESSE: As am I… although, unlike Dirk, I entered the industry from a place of blissful ignorance. Being a conéer of porn myself, I’d often idly wondered if I could succeed in the industry; as I mentioned before, when the opportunity presented itself, my thought was “Well, if I never try it, I’ll never know what it’s like.” And I’m very glad I did. Working porn has really increased my confidence, made me a more well-rounded person, brought me closer to my mom (yes, she knows all about it… it’s a pretty cool story actually… check out http://jessejackman.xxx/2012/10/04/she-knows), and introduced me to the man of my dreams. I’ve often found that when I stretch the limits of my comfort zone a little, I’m richly rewarded, and my decision to work in porn was no different. There’s an old saying that I like a lot: “Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb, because that’s where the fruit is.”

Some people who read this might be thinking, “Wow, porn sounds really great! Maybe I should try it!” And it IS great… but it’s not for everyone. Anyone who’s considering a career in porn needs to take time to consider the ramifications of their decision. Will your job be cool with it? Your family? Your friends? Don’t assume they’ll never find out, because they WILL. If you do decide to give porn a go, start at the top. Apply to work with the best of the best; don’t settle for some fly-by-night internet outfit that’s really just a guy with a webcam in some sleazy hotel room. And keep in mind that the average porn “career” only lasts about two years, plus the amount of work you’ll get won’t necessarily be consistent, and it frankly doesn’t pay enough to be your sole source of income. It’s fun while it lasts, but don’t expect it to last forever.

Finally, when you become a commercial porn performer, you’re really creating and marketing a “brand,” and it’s up to you to determine what that brand will be. One component of that decision is whether or not to go condomless. While the decision is ultimately yours, be aware that a lot of the top studios will not work with you if you’ve filmed any bareback scenes elsewhere. Barebacking — even so-called “responsible” barebacking — still puts people at greater risk for contracting not just HIV but other STDs as well… and certain companies don’t want to promote that brand. If you want to last longer in this industry, it’s better to start out only doing high-end condom films. Condom-only will help maintain your personal brand from the start; you can make other decisions later in your career if you so choose. If you do go raw, just keep in mind that besides potentially jeopardizing your health and the health of your partners — both on-screen and in your private life — you’ll be limiting your professional options down the road.

 
WHAT ARE THE BEST AND THE WORST EXPERIENCES YOU’VE HAD IN PORN?

DIRK: Wow, there’ve been so many bests. I think I’d cite getting to be part of a Ray Dragon film directed by Jake Deckard called Men in the Sand as a favorite experience. The film is an homage to the 1972 film “Boys in the Sand” filmed on Fire Island, and Jake’s concept was similar, to throw a bunch of porn stars into a house out there and film what happens. I was napping one afternoon in a downstairs bedroom curled up with my good friend Josh West, and we woke up to find Jake standing on the corner of the bed, holding his camera, and saying “Sorry, the light was too perfect, I had to film this. You’re awake now, just roll around and make out a bit.” So we did. Laughed a lot. Goofed around a bit. We figured it would be a minute or two of extra footage between the major scenes of the film, and even that would have been a highlight of my career. Even better was to discover when the film came out that Jake had edited this footage, in black and white and to some surprising and awesome music, into a whole scene in and of itself, which then leads to our actual sex scene outside in the shower (also awesome!). This has to be one of the most beautiful, romantic, affectionate, and memorable things I think I’ll ever be able to be a part of in the porn world. Heh, in light of that, how can I think of a bad experience?

JESSE: My experiences and interactions within the industry have all been wonderful, as have the interactions I’ve had with my fans. I’d say the best part of the job is getting to meet and talk to so many amazing people from all over the world. The only bad part about this whole thing is that, very rarely, I’ll encounter someone who lashes out against pornography, or (more generally) upon the LGBT community, and directs that hatred towards me. I’ve been the recipient of more than my share of hate mail. In every case, though, the hatred is almost immediately drowned out by an overwhelming outpouring of love and support from my fans, colleagues, and friends. And, ironically (or perhaps fittingly), a lot of good things have happened as a direct result the hate mail. One particular instance let to me becoming a contributor for the Huffington Post! I wrote about that experience at http://huffingtonpost.com/jesse-jackman under the heading “We Must (Not) Surrender.”

 
DIRK, HOW DID YOU BECAME A “COLT MAN”?

DIRK: Only about two years ago did I drum up the courage to send my résumé to COLT; they have such a respected standing in the industry, and are so specific about the quality and appearance of the man they like to work with. For a long time I didn’t believe that they’d be interested in me. To my surprise, they hired me nearly on the spot for ” title=”Fur Mountain” target=”_blank”>Fur Mountain, where they paired me with Spencer Reed and Trent Locke. Kristofer Weston, the director, seems to feel I do indeed fit the criterion to be a COLT man, and has hired me a number of times since, not only for COLT shoots but also for their bondage-based affiliate site Bound Jocks. I love working with these guys.

 
DIRK, YOU’VE DONE SHOOTS WITH EUROPEAN SITES. IS IT DIFFERENT THAN THE AMERICAN PORN INDUSTRY?

DIRK: They are different, but not remarkably so. The London-based sites I’ve worked with, Alpha Male, UK Naked Men, and Men At Play, tend to be more relaxed in terms of scheduling, often booking shoots a week ahead of time; most US sites will book a month or two ahead of time. Many of the European sites tend to be smaller studios in terms of personnel and space too, so it’s possible to meet an entire crew in the course of an afternoon shoot; I think there are still staff members at Titan I haven’t met yet. European studios generally run on a tighter budget and hence pay slightly less too. Otherwise, though, especially from the model’s standpoint, they’re much the same. I show up, we talk through how the scene might go, the stars get themselves ready, and we film. Pauses are made to change cameras or lighting, or to take a break. We finish up, take a shower, put our clothes on, hug everyone thank you and goodbye, and head for dinner. All that is very much like how a Stateside scene would happen.

 
DIRK, WOULD YOU SIGN AN EXCLUSIVITY CONTRACT IF ASKED?

DIRK: At this stage in my career it’s probably a moot point. Studios want exclusives who haven’t already worked with everyone out there and who they can claim are their special domain; that’s kind of the point of keeping an exclusive model for them. Titan considered offering me exclusivity when I first started, and I wasn’t sure that I wanted to limit myself; even then I was thinking I wanted to be able to use working with the London studios as a means of traveling to Europe more often, and a Titan exclusivity would squelch that idea. Then Titan decided that they didn’t want me exclusively, and of course then my first thought was “Wait, what’s WRONG with me?” They were right, though, and it’s been best for both of us. I still have done a huge amount of work with Titan; indeed, I didn’t work with any another studio in my first nine months, I was so happy just working with them. Today if I only ever worked with Titan and COLT for the rest of my career (okay, and Men At Play in London), I’d be perfectly happy with what could be seen as a self-imposed exclusivity.

 
DIRK, YOU’VE BEEN CHOSEN “DADDY PORN STAR OF THE YEAR.” WHAT ARE YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT BEING RECOGNIZED AS SUCH?

DIRK: For a long time I thought being called “daddy” was a bit silly, but just about the time I started in porn a good friend in Boston called me that, and the light went on in my head — with him the term actually fit. Heh, practically speaking, I got into the porn industry when I was ten years older than most guys are when they retire from it. That means that I could actually have sired some of the younger guys I’ve worked with, and legally! And these days, as guys are becoming more and more aware in the real world that it’s possible to continue to have a great body and an active sexual life well into their fifties and sixties (and why stop then?), and that there are younger guys who love that maturity and solidity, I think it’s fitting that there are more and more guys my age and older in porn. The term “daddy” itself I know rubs some men the wrong way, that it smacks of incest or pederasty, or makes some guys just feel old. I find it’s just a term of affection, admiration. And if there’s something the gay world might benefit from a bit more, it’s more connection between generations; our history through the last fifty years other than the epidemic and certain key cornerstone events is still a largely oral tradition, and how will that be passed on until more enterprising authors write more of it down if younger guys and older guys don’t connect? “Daddy” I think is just an indication that this is happening more often.

 
DIRK, YOU’VE DONE SEVEN SCENES WITH BOUND GODS AND ONE WITH BOUND IN PUBLIC. IS BDSM SOMETHING THAT YOU ENJOY AND PRACTICE IN YOUR PRIVATE LIFE, OR IS IT ONLY FOR SHOOTING?

DIRK: I came to the porn world via the BDSM world, and used to be very active. That has slackened in the last few years, though I do still get the occasional opportunity to exercise my skills in the real world. Jesse has dipped his toes into this pool and found the water wasn’t quite as cold as he was afraid it might be, but it’s still not really his thing, so I’ve been much more active on camera than off. There is a difference, though; Bound Gods is again a visual media, and the SM element has to come across visually, so in fact on camera I’m needed to be a lot more cruel than I am in real life. BDSM is ultimately a means of very deep intimacy, and as we said before that’s really hard to convey on camera. When I play on my own, there’s much more physical and sensual contact, much more vocal interplay, and a hell of a lot more laughter. I am usually the dom, but what makes driving fun for me is taking my sub on a trip to someplace he wouldn’t be able to go if he weren’t tied up, say; it’s never about establishing who’s boss or just trying to hurt him.

 
JESSE, HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN AN EXCLUSIVE FOR TITAN? DO YOU ENJOY BEING AN EXCLUSIVE?

JESSE: Titan, to my great surprise, offered me an exclusive agreement following my first scene in August of 2011. After talking a lot with my friend (and scene partner) Hunter Marx and several confidants back home, I accepted. Being an exclusive has a lot of benefits: I’m guaranteed a certain number of scenes per year, my scene rate is higher, Titan helps me run my blog (www.jessejackman.xxx), and I get plenty of free porn. Plus, in a nod to my ego, I get to be on the cover of the DVDs! But most importantly I feel like part of the Titan family; working so closely with the guys has enabled me to make friends who I know are going to be part of my life long after this little adventure is over.

 
BOTH OF YOU: IF THERE IS ONE, WHAT WOULD BE YOUR DREAM SCENE (EITHER TOGETHER OR SEPARATELY) AND WITH WHOM WOULD IT BE?

DIRK: We always enjoy working with each other; I think we’d have a LOT of fun arranging threesomes between us and one other co-star. We tried to set this up a while ago with our buddy Rogan Richards; it didn’t quite happen as planned for a few reasons, and I’d LOVE to go back and revisit that scenario properly with him and Jesse again. I’ve also lusted after Drake Jaden since I first saw him on Kink.com; in the back of my head I have this perverse image of him and Jesse next to each other, Drake looking like such a mini-me version of Jesse, and me finding myself somehow stuck in the middle. That would be HOT.

JESSE: So far all of my scenes have been one-on-one, so I agree with Dirk: I’d LOVE to film a threesome or even an orgy scene that includes the two of us. Also — and I know this is not likely to happen — it would be really awesome to drag François Sagat out of retirement to film a scene with me. Our scene in Incubus was just a jerk-off scene, but our chemistry was great and I think we’d have fun doing a LOT more on camera.

 
WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE EXCLUSIVES WITH THE SAME STUDIO SOMEDAY?

DIRK: It’s an interesting idea. But no, quite the opposite, I think we’re looking forward to being non-exclusives together sometime in the future when Jesse’s close exclusive relationship with Titan has run its course. Titan will always be family for both of us, though; it’s where we both started out and where we’ve done the vast majority of our work. I’d hope our working relationship with them will continue as long as we’re both still up for doing this.

JESSE: I’m loving my Titan exclusivity and I’m benefiting a lot from it, both personally and professionally. Someday, perhaps — if and when I’m no longer an exclusive — it would be fun to work with Dirk at a different studio, just to find out what it’s like. I think it would be exciting to appear together in COLT’s annual “Couples” calendar, too. But neither of us are in any rush to get there. Our current arrangement works wonderfully.

 
AS IN YOUR SHOOTS, ARE YOU BOTH VERSATILE IN NATURE?

DIRK: Hell yeah!

JESSE: Definitely! And which role I take depends a lot on chemistry; there are some people with whom topping just comes more naturally, and with others, bottoming feels like a better fit. It’s great being flexible like that; I just do whatever feels better. Luckily for Dirk and me, we’re both like that… which means our sex life is never boring.

 
YOU RECENTLY FILMED IN SAN FRANCISCO. YOU GOT TO FILM ANOTHER SCENE TOGETHER, RIGHT? AND DIRK: BESIDES TITAN, WHAT OTHER STUDIOS DID YOU WORK WITH ON THIS MOST RECENT TRIP?

JESSE: Dirk and I shot TWO scenes together for Titan last month, actually. And in both of them, I got to play out a particular fantasy of mine: locker room sex! The two scenes, while similar in nature, were directed by two different Titan directors, Jasun Mark and Paul Wilde. In Jasun’s version, Dirk and I are workout partners who have sex in the locker room while no one’s watching. Paul took an edgier approach, having us fetishize the gear itself… pissing all over each other’s workout clothes, worshiping each other’s jock straps, licking each other’s pits, and so on. Both scenes will be out later this year; I’m really looking forward to seeing how each director’s vision is realized.

DIRK: The other site I shot for was Bound Jocks. Kristofer Weston directed, and my buddy Leo Forte was my scene partner; both of them are also a well-respected and highly skilled players in the SM world. Leo and I took turns tying each other up and then going at the other with the flogger. It turned into an interesting shoot for showing our different styles as doms; he’s far more aggressive and athletic, I’m more affectionate and playful. We had a hell of a lot of fun, and as we were essentially suspended from the beams over our heads, we nearly broke the ceiling of the studio!

 
WHAT ARE YOUR NEXT PROJECTS?

JESSE: Titan just released a couple of my new films (“Dick Danger” with Rogan Richards and “Caught in the Act: A Joe Gage Chronicle” with XBIZ Performer of the Year Jessy Ares) so it’s time to take a break for a little while and focus on my writing (see http://jessejackman.xxx and http://huffingtonpost.com/jesse-jackman). I also get to eat pizza and ice cream again! (Well, maybe for a little while.) The Titan guys have talked about flying me to Palm Springs in May or June to film a couple of scenes; I love it there, and it would be great to go back. Also, Joe Gage — something of a legend in the porn industry — has expressed interest in casting me for another one of his films. Working with him before was an amazing experience, and I would jump at that opportunity again in a heartbeat.

DIRK: I’ve a few things in the stew. MEN.com just contacted me about a larger project they’d like to film, utilizing my “daddy” status. Kink.com is starting a new line; I’m not sure how much I can say publicly about it yet, but I’m headed back to SF to film some of their lead-in material soon. There’s a new bear-themed site that’s starting filming in Florida that I’ve been contacted about possibly being a part of, and COLT is considering a western-themed project this summer. Jesse and I have some appearances coming up, notably at the BlacKKnighT party in Toronto on February 16th, at the Bear Bust at Hamburger Mary’s in Kansas City the first weekend in May, and at Sinner’s Ball in my childhood stomping grounds, Ogunquit, Maine, the first weekend of August.

 
WILL WE BE SEEING YOU BOTH IN MONTREAL SOON?

DIRK: We have some excellent friends in Montreal who we love to visit, and it’s an awesome city. We’ll always come back, though after visiting over New Years we may wait for warmer weather!

JESSE: Maybe even sooner than that, in my case. While Dirk’s away in early March I’m going skiing with some friends in Vermont, and because Montreal’s so close, I’m thinking about driving up to spend a couple of days there as well. I can never get enough of your beautiful city… one which I have come to think of as a second home. “Montréal, ma ville!”

 
THANK YOU SO MUCH TO BOTH OF YOU AND GOOD LUCK IN ALL YOUR PROJECTS!

JESSE: We’re very proud to be a part of ZIP’s Valentine’s Day edition. Thank you so much for the opportunity!
 
 


 
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Interview: “Brilliant Mind Beyond the Aesthetic” (aw, shucks!)

Recently I sat down with Ryan Shea, the editor-in-chief at Manhattan Digest, to discuss life, liberty, and the pursuit of good porn. Mr. Shea asked some pretty interesting questions; we had a wide-ranging discussion that covered relationships, misconceptions about porn stars, and antitretoviral post-exposure therapy for HIV, among other things. I thought it was a great interview. Hope you like it… and be sure to check out Manhattan Digest’s website, manhattandigest.com!


01Jesse Jackman: Brilliant Mind Beyond the Aesthetic
By Ryan Shea / January 12, 2014

I think mainly anyone can tell you that something that is a big factor in finding someone attractive is not only their looks but really if they have a good brain to back it up. Jesse Jackman is a good example of that. Not only is he a rugged, handsome and all around sexy as f kind of a man, but he also is a fellow writer who dishes out quality op-ed’s for the world to see and engage in. One of the biggest names in the adult industry, and a current XBIZ nominee for Gay Performer of the Year, has truly made a name for himself both in and out of the industry. He and his boyfriend, fellow adult film star Dirk Caber, are the biggest porn couple out there right now, are at the forefronts of many of their fans minds and khaki inseams with their ongoing posts, travels and opinions about themselves and the community around them. I got the chance to sit down with Mr. Jackman himself, to get a better idea of who he is not only as the star that many of us have come to know but really the man behind the lens, something that is often lost in this type of industry. Take a look.


Let’s take this back before you became a well known figure. At what age were you when you discovered you were gay and what was the process in coming out?

I think I always knew I was “different” somehow, but I didn’t really figure out I was gay until I hit puberty and started eyeing the other boys in junior high school instead of the girls. I didn’t date anyone when I was in my teens; I was too afraid to come out as gay, and dating women just didn’t feel right. So all through high school and college I chose to throw myself into my studies rather than owning and exploring my sexuality.

I finally came out when I was 20 and wrote a letter to an openly gay teacher who had spoken to my high school class at an assembly several years earlier. He was the only flesh-and-blood connection I’d ever seen to the gay world, and the only person I could think of to reach out to. I didn’t think he’d write back, but he did, and his letter was incredibly supportive. He encouraged me to tell someone I trusted and didn’t think would be judgmental. I took his advice and told my best friend. It went wonderfully; in fact, I found that it actually deepened my relationship with my friend because I didn’t have to hide that part of me anymore (although he suspected I might be gay because I never dated anyone). I gradually told more and more of my friends over the next couple of years, and they were all really accepting. I think my favorite reaction came from one of my college friends about a year after we graduated: All he said was, “That’s cool… what’s for lunch?” and that was the end of it. Even my parents were supportive. I had thought that coming out would be this huge dramatic affair, but in fact it all went wonderfully. I finally started dating guys just before I turned 23.

 
Did you find it much harder to come out back then compared to how much easier and accepted it is to come out now?

I think that depends a lot the situation. Generally I’d say that it’s easier now than it was 20 years ago, but I still hear lots of horror stories from young gay men and women who were beaten up by their peers or thrown out by their families. I was very lucky; I grew up in a liberal state (Massachusetts) in a great family with supportive friends… but I know people that people in other states, countries, and circumstances aren’t nearly as fortunate. One of the reasons I wrote my first Huffington Post article, “We Must (Not) Surrender” (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jesse-jackman/we-must-not-surrender_b_4220188.html), was to help LGBT victims of bullying and intimidation understand that they are not alone.

 
What has been your experience as a whole in the gay community? Where do you think that we excel at and where do you think we can improve on?

I find the gay community to be a bit fractured. For example, Dirk and I live in a traditionally lesbian neighborhood; there are also traditionally gay (male) neighborhoods in Boston, and the two communities don’t interact much. I see similar divides just within the male community. The idea of “classifications” of gay men (circuit boys, bears, otters, twinks and so on) always bothered me a bit, especially when people in one category segregate themselves from those in other groups. I’ve found HIV status to be a big dividing line, too. I’m proud that my friends come in all different shades of gender, appearance, sexuality, and status.

It seems to me that it either takes a cause (Stonewall, marriage equality) or a crisis (AIDS) to really unite the LGBT community… and when we do unite, we’re one of the strongest social forces on earth. I wish we could learn to be more unified all the time, not just when faced with adversity.

 
How did you get your start in the industry?

02There is one guy in particular, Roman Wright, who got me into making porn. But first a little back-story: Over July 4th weekend in 2011 I met Hunter Marx, a Titan model, and his partner Ethan Anders in Saugatuck, Michigan. They were hot. We fucked around a lot had a ton of fun… so much so that I started idly wondering if what we did might be reproducible in front of a camera. A week later, back in Boston, I happened to run into the aforementioned Roman, an old friend, and half-jokingly asked him if he thought I could work in porn (with no serious intent to ever do it, despite my curiosity). He said he thought I could, but that I shouldn’t. Roman knows me pretty well, and thought I wouldn’t deal well with the inevitable criticism that comes with public performance. (He was ultimately right: I try very hard not to read reviews of my scenes because I take negative criticism rather personally.)

Roman flew home to San Francisco the next day. Then, out of the blue, I got a message on Facebook from a guy I’d never heard of named Patrick Finger:

Hi Jesse,

I handle casting for Titan Media. I’m standing here with Roman Wright and he’s telling me that you’d like to work with us. You’re a great looking guy. Are you interested?

Patrick

Oh, that Roman. I guess I’d been putting off a pretty strong vibe that, subconsciously, I really did want to work in the industry… or Roman figured he’d at least arrange for the opportunity and let me make up my own damn mind. Anyway, I told Patrick I’d think about it. After about two weeks of soul-searching I finally decided that if I didn’t at least try it, I would always wonder what it was like. I filled out the model application and emailed it in. Less than three hours later I got a message back from Patrick saying that everything looked good and that Titan would love to work with me. We spoke on the phone the next day, and within a couple of weeks I flew to San Francisco to film my first scene – with Hunter Marx, the Titan Man from Saugatuck, of all people! – for my first TitanMen film, Surveillance. I eventually got to shoot a scene with Roman too, a flip scene in Command Performance.

 
What do you think is the biggest misconception of the adult industry?

Unfortunately, a common misconception among the general public is that porn stars are one-dimensional, or are in porn because we’re somehow “damaged,” or even that we’re all drug addicts who resort to making porn as a last-ditch effort to fund our habit. People are often surprised to find out that I have a day job. Most of us do! I’ve met actors who are personal trainers, weather forecasters, investment bankers, stock brokers, artists, massage therapists, Broadway dancers… my husband Dirk is an accomplished classical musician! The fact is that there are many well-rounded, well-adjusted, fascinating people in the industry who are simply doing it to add some spice to their lives and earn a little pocket money in the process.

By the way, my regular employer is totally fine with my little side career. It’s actually an interesting story; you can read about it at http://jessejackman.xxx/2012/10/15/adversity-advocacy-and-affirmation.

 
For anyone that is looking to get into it, what advice do you have?

I wrote about this extensively on my blog in a post called “So You Think You Can Fuck” (http://jessejackman.xxx/2013/02/27/so-you-think-you-can-fuck), but here’s the summary: First, decide why you want to be in the industry. You should do it because you want to, not because you need to; it’s not a career, and you can’t rely on getting steady work. There might be periods of time when you’re filming every week, but there will also be dry spells that last for months. Also consider whether your family, friends, and employer will be okay when they find out you make porn (which they will). Reach out to studios that match your look and attitude; if you’re a heavily-muscled, hairy, tattooed cigar smoker, don’t apply to a company that makes twink porn! (The guys at Titan, however, would love to hear from you for their Titan Rough series.) And when you do apply, be honest. Don’t lie about your stats or your level of experience. Don’t send airbrushed or Photoshopped pictures; the studios would rather see the raw material they have to work with, not an artist’s rendition of it. Finally, know that if you ever film a bareback scene, you’ll be automatically excluded from working with some of the largest studios out there, including Titan, COLT, and others.

 
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Let’s talk about your relationship with Dirk for a second. How did you guys meet and how long did it take for you to be in a full blown relationship?

I was introduced to Dirk by a very close friend in September of 2011. I was new to the industry, and my friend thought that Dirk, who’d already been in the industry for over a year, would be a good “big brother” to me as I started to learn the ropes. I’d already seen Dirk in TitanMen’s Sting, which I watched while doing research for Surveillance. (Hunter Marx, my Surveillance scene partner, was also in Sting and I wanted to learn more about what would turn him on.) Our connection was immediate and strong and very sexual, and we actually hooked up the night we met. We worked side-by-side at the Titan booth during the 2011 Folsom Street Fair, and we stayed in touch afterwards, talking and texting almost daily. He lived in Chicago at the time, so we weren’t sure that a long-distance relationship would work, but after a couple of trips to see each other, we realized that our chemistry was too amazing not to give it a try. By Halloween we considered ourselves a couple; at Thanksgiving we met each other’s families; and on Christmas day we made it “official” in the way that it’s done these days: by changing our Facebook relationship statuses. That last step came as little surprise to our friends; by that time the general consensus was “Well, duh!”

After another year of doing the long-distance thing, we decided the time was right. Dirk started planning his relocation to Boston, and we finally moved in together at the end of May 2013. Everything’s going great so far… although we have more furniture than we know what to do with.

 
I read a post you did for HuffPost detailing how you guys are open but there are rules to it. Seeing as open relationships tend to be very judged in this community, how do you respond to people who think that relationships should be strictly monogamous?

To each their own. I have no problem with monogamy; if it works for you, go for it! Although Dirk and I have found that an open relationship is a good fit for us, I’d never judge anyone for being in a monogamous relationship. Similarly, I would hope that monogamy-oriented people don’t judge our open one. Dirk sums it up very elegantly: “To paraphrase Ingrid Bergman in Cactus Flower, they can go to their church and we’ll go to ours.”

 
Seeing as both of you are well known inside the industry, what hurdles do you face when it comes to not being on camera and being in the real world?

We have our share of trials, successes, and failures, just like all couples do. I’d say that the biggest challenge so far has been adjusting to living together. I’ve never lived with a partner before, and Dirk only did so very briefly when he lived in New York, so it’s a big change for both of us. We’re in each other’s space a lot. Fortunately we have a pretty big house, which we’ve set up so that each of us has a room where we can just shut the door and focus on whatever we need to. Dirk, who is of Scottish descent, even has a sign on his door (which I gave him) that says “Scottish Territory: No Trespassing!”
 
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Outside of the industry, you have a lot going on for yourself including being a big time blogger. How did you score the HuffPost gig and what is your mission statement when you write for them?

The Huffington Post gig came about as an unexpectedly amazing result of a very challenging time. In October of 2013 I posted a (G-rated) photo on Facebook of Dirk and me sharing a kiss. Although I’d posted plenty of pictures like that before, for some reason this particular one got a lot of negative comments, from the mild (“Ew, gross!”) to the overtly threatening (“All faggots must die”). One person even threatened to shoot me. And then, without warning, Facebook deleted my photo and banned me from posting for 12 hours, claiming that the photo had “violated community standards.” I immediately contacted several industry blogs to draw attention to the situation, and the story was also picked up by several mainstream media outlets, including newspapers in several countries, a television station in San Francisco, and the Huffington Post’s Technology section. Shortly after the HuffPost article was published, Facebook quietly restored my photo (along with all the comments, even the harassing ones) without offering me any direct explanation.

A few days later, the editor of HuffPost’s Gay Voices section contacted me to ask if I’d be interested in writing about my experience during the whole incident. I agreed, and spent three weeks writing an op-ed piece that not only provided a recap of the events, but also explained why it was important for Dirk and me to stand up to the harassment and threats we’d received. I guess the HuffPost editors liked what they read; after the article was published, to my surprise they provided me with a regular contributor’s account. I’ve since written two additional articles (one on safe sex and another on gay marriage) and will be contributing more in the future. You can read all my articles at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jesse-jackman.

I feel like working in the adult film industry gives me a unique perspective; I hope that sharing my experiences in the industry and beyond will make some small difference in the world. For example, a future article will discuss the importance of, and controversy surrounding, pre- and post-exposure HIV prophylaxis. I’ve found that a lot of gay men don’t know about PEP and PrEP, so I see this as a valuable opportunity to get the word out about these revolutionary therapies.
 
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What are your hopes and goals for 2014 and beyond?

My life just keeps getting better as I get older. My only wish is for the trend to continue.


Stay up to date with Jesse by following him on Facebook and his fantastic blog. Best of luck to him in the future!

Interview with the Demon

Last week I sat down for an interview with GayDemon.com, a really great website devoted to news, reviews, and stories of general interest to lovers of gay erotica. (I especially like the section where they review porn websites, and that Titan was named an Editor’s Pick.)     With their permission, I’m reposting the entire interview here. Hope you enjoy reading it… and be sure to check out all the awesomeness that is GayDemon.com!


Titan Man Jesse Jackman! Thanks for dropping by to do an interview. We’re thrilled, literally. How you doing?

Doing great, thanks! I’m really happy to be talking with you.

You’ve had quite a career so far, with 12 Titan titles under your belt, and no doubt more in the pipeline. What got you interested in performing in adult film and how did you get started?

It’s less of a “what” and more of a “who,” actually. I gave my friend Roman Wright a ride home from Provincetown a couple of summers ago; I knew he worked in the industry so I asked him what it was like. I guess he took that as more than just passing interest, because he told Titan about me, and the next day I got a call from them asking me if I wanted to work with them. The more I thought about it, the more it sounded like fun, and I figured I had nothing to lose by giving it a shot so I did. I love it!

What was your favorite film to make and why?

That’s a little tricky, because they’ve all been fun… but there’s really only one answer, and that’s Loud and Nasty. There were so many amazing things about that film. It was my first fetish film; because the scene featured both a violet wand and a taser I got to face (and conquer) a rather crippling fear of electricity I’ve had since I was a kid. Most of all, though, it was an opportunity to work with the love of my life, my partner Dirk Caber. Titan rarely works with real-life couples because what works in the bedroom doesn’t necessarily make for good porn (you need to allow the cameras to see the action, which can make for some unusual positioning), and some couples have trouble making the adjustment. So for Titan to trust us with that opportunity was a huge honor. Our on-set chemistry was, to make the obvious joke, “electric.” I’m really, really proud of how it turned out. Plus I got to consensually tase my boyfriend, and he liked it… how many people can say that? The movie sold well, and Titan gave us a chance to work together again in Extra Firm with a similarly fruitful result.

Jesse Jackman in Loud and Nasty

Earlier this year Titan released a new site, Titan Rough. Were you as excited as we were when you got to do sleazier scenes?

Absolutely! I’m actually a lot more vanilla than you’d expect, so the Rough films give me an opportunity to try new things with established experts at the directorial helm. We’ve got a project planned for early next year in which I face another rather paralyzing fear of mine. I’m a little nervous but I know I’m in good hands!

Has anything happened on set that made you wish you were somewhere else? Or something quite funny perhaps?

I can’t believe I’m going to share this with you, but here goes: A little while ago I filmed a scene with legendary porn director Joe Gage. The film hasn’t been released yet, but I hear it’s expected to come out any day now. Anyway, my scene partner was Jessy Ares, who’s a great guy… and very hung. Towards the end of the oral part of the scene, I, uh… actually threw up in my mouth while deep-throating him. Like, a LOT. But I didn’t want to disrupt production, and I didn’t want to do anything to upset Joe, so I wrapped my lips tightly around Jessy’s cock, pulled back, and swallowed hard. I didn’t spill a drop, and we continued on. After we’d wrapped and we all went out to dinner, I shared the story; it turns out nobody had even noticed what happened. Disgusting as it was, I’m actually really proud that I took one for the team.

Have other studios approached you, hoping to prize you away from your exclusive Titan status? How does the exclusive thing work?

Titan, to my great surprise, offered me an exclusive agreement following my first scene. After talking a lot with my friend (and scene partner) Hunter Marx and several confidants back home, I accepted. Being an exclusive has a lot of perks: I’m guaranteed to film at least a certain number of scenes per year, my scene rate is higher, The Titan IT guys help me run my blog, and I get plenty of free porn. Plus, in a special nod to my ego, I get to be on the cover of the DVDs! But most importantly I feel like part of the Titan family; working so closely together has enabled me to make friends who I know are going to be part of my life long after this little foray into porn is over.

I’m not allowed to work with other studios, of course, but beyond that I actually have a lot of flexibility. I’ve done a number of live shows (for Magnitude, Hustlaball London, Steamworks, and others), plus I’ve done a bit of modeling work. With Titan’s permission, fellow Titan Man Rogan Richards and I even filmed “Motel Muscle”, a really hot X-rated scene that’s currently in post-production (you can see a 5 minute preview at motelmuscle.com). As long as I let Titan know about these independent gigs in advance, they’ve been awesome at letting me pursue them.

A few major studios have lamented that I’m not available to work with them, which is really flattering. In fact, when I announced the renewal of my exclusivity agreement in 2012, Kristofer Weston at COLT tweeted one word: “Weeping.” But every single one of them has been respectful of the agreement I have with Titan, and no one has tried to lure me away. I really appreciate that.

Jesse Jackman and Dirk Caber

You and your super-hot man Dirk Caber live in Boston, MA right? Where do you guys hang out? Do you go to clubs, fetish bars etc?

Um… we go to New York? Seriously, Boston’s pretty tame, so if we’re really itching to go to a fetish bar we’ll head to either New York or Montreal for the weekend (it’s an easy drive to both). We do go out in Boston fairly regularly, though; while I’m more of a cocktail or sports bar kind of guy, Dirk really likes to dance, so we try to strike a balance. I’m a terrible dancer, but when I’m with my hubby we always have fun.

Our readers, as do I, love to know what the fitness routines of the porn superstars we interview are. Abs are made in the kitchen right?

In part, yeah. I’m really terrible with my diet; I guess that’s what happens when you really like pizza and ice cream. That’s why I do 45 minutes to an hour of cardio every day. I work my abs every day, too. Dirk and I lift together; we usually do chest and triceps on the first day, then back and biceps the second day, then shoulders, then legs… then repeat. We rarely take a day off… which may actually be a problem. We’re both creatures of habit so it’s difficult for us to skip a day, but sometimes I think we might taxing ourselves too much. Maintaining a healthy body takes three objectives: Training, diet, and rest. Each of them are equally important. I’ve got the first one down pat; the other two could definitely use some improvement.

Jesse Jackman hairy nudeCan you tell us about “The One Rule”?

Dirk and I have only one rule in our relationship: “Never bring home anything you don’t want to share.” It serves lots of different functions, from preventing jealousy to avoiding STDs to making sure we’re both gonna be into the hot guys we bring home to toss around. It works really well for us.

Let’s get to know a little bit more about the guy behind Jesse Jackman. What are your hobbies and how do you spend your spare time?

I’m an insatiable geek. You name it, I’ve hacked it. For example, even though I’m not a TiVo employee, in my spare time I fixed a highly-publicized bug in TiVo’s operating system that otherwise would have caused all the TiVos in the U.S. to malfunction back in 2005. TiVo sent me a brand new device with lifetime service for my trouble. I also spend a lot of time monkeying with the code on my blog, JesseJackman.xxx.

Working in the industry has also revealed a hidden passion in me: I’ve discovered that I really love to write! I’m finding it to be a considerably centering, cathartic way to express my thoughts and feelings. That’s why I post so much to my blog and on Facebook… I’m doing it mostly for me. The fact that people seem to enjoy reading my posts is a wonderful surprise and intensely gratifying. Recently, my musings even got the attention of the Huffington Post’s Gay Voices editor who asked me to be a regular contributor. I’m really excited! I’m going to be submitting articles regularly; you can check them out on my Huffington Post page.

Can you tell us anything about your background, where you grew up, school life etc?

I’m a Bostonian through and through. I grew up in a suburb just west of town, and after venturing out into the world a bit (I went to college in the Midwest with a 6 month stint in Japan), I moved back to Boston and into the city proper. I now live in a neighborhood called Jamaica Plain; it’s really eclectic and funky. It reminds me of college, actually. Dirk moved here from Chicago last May after 18 months of long-distance courtship, and I’m so happy that it’s no longer just my home, but ours.

Let’s talk a little about the future. What’s happening next? Are you filming any movies at the moment?

I just re-signed with Titan for another year of exclusivity so you’ll definitely be seeing more of me! There are a few scenes that are currently “in the can” and making their way through post-production, including scenes with Jessy Ares, Rogan Richards, and TitanMen Exclusive Jay Bentley. I’m pretty sure my next scenes will be shot sometime in January, and at the moment we’re thinking they’ll be for the Titan Rough line which is going to be tons of fun. It always is.

Jesse Jackman with Francois Sagat in Incubus

Who would you like to work with and who inspires you in porn?

Working with Joe Gage was an incredible experience, and I’d love film another scene under his direction someday. On the actor side, my porn inspiration is actually my hubby Dirk. He’s sexy, he’s open-minded, he’s experienced, and he’s an incredible performer. And I get to sleep with him every night! I’m a lucky man.

François Sagat’s also been a huge inspiration. I worked under him – both literally and figuratively – on Incubus, his award-winning directorial debut. He’s got a great attitude, never takes himself too seriously, is really humble, and amazingly creative. I know he’s retired from the industry and has moved on to other projects (see kicksagat.com), but I hope that someday he returns to directing. He’s got a real gift.

A lot of guys reading this will probably want to know how they can get into the limelight and become a porn star too. What advice would you give to guys who want to start in the industry?

Take time to consider the ramifications of your decision. Will your job be cool with it? Your family? Your friends? Don’t assume they’ll never find out, because they WILL. If you do decide to give porn a go, start at the top. Apply to work with the best of the best; don’t settle for some fly-by-night internet outfit that’s really just a guy with a webcam in some sleazy hotel room. And keep in mind that the average porn “career” only lasts about two years, plus the amount of work you’ll get won’t necessarily be consistent, and it frankly doesn’t pay enough to be your sole source of income. It’s fun while it lasts, but don’t expect it to last forever.

Finally, when you become a commercial porn performer, you’re really creating and marketing a “brand,” and it’s up to you to determine what that brand will be. One component of that decision is whether or not to go condomless. While the decision is ultimately yours, be aware that a lot of the top studios will not work with you if you’ve filmed any bareback scenes elsewhere. Barebacking – even so-called “responsible” barebacking – still puts people at greater risk for contracting not just HIV but other STDs as well… and certain companies don’t want to promote that brand. If you want to last longer in this industry, it’s better to start out only doing high-end condom films. Condom-only will help maintain your personal brand from the start; you can make other decisions later in your career if you so choose. If you do go raw, just keep in mind that besides potentially jeopardizing your health and the health of your partners – both on-screen and in your private life – you’ll be limiting your professional options down the road.

I’ve loved talking with you Jesse. Would you like to give a message to your fans?

Yup… just do what you love, do it often, be safe, and most of all… have fun!


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