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So You Think You Can Fuck: My (Illustrated) Guide to Becoming a Porn Star

These are the photos I sent in with my TitanMen new model application.


One of the most common questions I get asked on my Facebook page is “How can I become a porn star?” Well, I’m gonna tell ya what I know.

First off, do your homework. Check out the actors at a bunch of different major studios (visit Queer Pig or Queer Me Now for a good overview) and carefully choose a handful of studios that might be after your look. Be realistic; don’t apply for a bear porn site if you’re a twink! Titan, for example, was a great match for me… clean-cut, muscular, not overly tattooed… but there are plenty of different studios, and each one has a different look they’re after.

The next step is to fill out the application. Almost every studio has an online version of their application; Titan’s is at http://titanmen.net/apply, for instance. When you fill it out, be honest. Describe your sexual likes and dislikes, and don’t worry if they’re kinky; trust me, they’ve heard it all before. If you know someone in the industry, great; list them as a referral. Be sincere about the reason you want to get into porn, and what you’re looking to get out of it. Your honest answers will go a long way to help the studio determine if you’re a good fit.

Next… the pictures. Any reputable studio will require that you send several nude photographs of yourself, both hard and soft, from a few different angles. They don’t have to be professional pics; for most studios, a cellphone picture in a mirror is fine. In some cases, amateur photos are actually better, because the studio can get a better idea of the “raw material” they have to work with. In my case, I had a friend come over to take the photos, but self-portraits would have been just as good. Your first photographic impression is, of course, very important. You should be in as good shape as possible when you take the photos, and when you submit them, they should be recent. If you submit a photo from 5 years ago when you were 8% bodyfat and now you’re at 28%, they’re gonna find out soon enough. (But if you’re interested in doing bear porn, that might be an asset!) To give you some examples, at the top of this post I’ve included the 5 pictures I submitted to Titan when I first applied.

Once you’ve sent in the application, wait. Studio executives are very busy, and sometimes get dozens of applications a week. Don’t bug them. If you haven’t heard anything from them in a few weeks, a quick email might be in order (the email address will be on their website). In my experience, most studios do not send rejection letters; if you still don’t hear back from them, they’ve probably determined that you’re not a good fit. But take heart… just because you’re not a good fit with that studio, there are plenty of others, and one of them might be a better match. Apply to them too!

If a studio does contact you with an offer, take some time to consider their proposal before making your decision. There’s no rush. Weigh the potential ramifications if you choose to enter the world of porn. Will you be okay if your family finds out? What about your friends? Your employer? I’m very lucky to have wonderful friends, a fantastic job, and a family that’s very supportive (yes, they all know), but you should think about how it’ll affect you when (yes, when, not “if”) they find out.

Another thing to consider is what side of the so-called “latex line” you want to be on. The choice is, of course, ultimately yours, but remember that if you ever shoot a bareback scene with any studio, or even put an amateur barebacking video of your own on XTube, that automatically rules out your ever working with a bunch of the major studios, including Titan. Just something to keep in mind. I personally believe that always using condoms is not only safest, but sets a good example; the guys at Titan believe the same thing, so that’s another reason why we’re a great fit.

I won’t discuss how much you can expect to make per scene; that’s between you and the studio. I won’t tell you how much I make, either. I can tell you, though, that you’re paid by the scene; you’re a freelance artist, under contract for the day. The recruiter will usually tell you up front what the starting scene rate is. If not, it’s completely reasonable for you to ask. Remember that established performers make more money than the newbies, so your scene rate will probably increase as you gain experience.

Well, that’s about it. To give you some additional inspiration, I’m including the application that I originally submitted to Titan (see below). It should give you an idea of what the studios are looking for.

Remember, the Titan model application is at http://titanmen.net/apply… tell ’em I sent ya. Good luck!

Update: Shortly after I posted this, Dominic Ford pointed out to me that he already has a film series called “So You Think You Can Fuck” (sytycf.com). Oops! Hey Dominic, sorry about that… and thanks for letting me use the title anyway! Although I suppose I could have also called it “The Sex Factor” or “America’s Hot Talent”… or even “The Eurnovirgin Schlong Contest” for my European friends.

        

So You Think You Can Fuck, Part II: “Porn 101”

Now this is pretty awesome. Conner Habib, who appears in several TitanMen films like Caught in the Act and Resort, recently announced on his blog that he’s been named Vice President of the the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee, or APAC. Curious about APAC, Dirk and I wandered over to their website to take a look. We discovered that they’re a relatively new organization with an ambitious goal: “To maintain and improve safety and working conditions in the adult film industry by giving adult performers organized representation in matters that affect our health, safety, and community.” Very cool.

APAC’s first major project was a porn industry primer called “Porn 101” that I’ve posted above. It condenses many of the lessons that Dirk and I have learned over the course of our combined 8 years in the industry — which I’ve written about in an earlier post entitled So You Think You Can Fuck — into just 14 minutes. Although the video is geared towards the straight side of the industry, almost everything applies to the gay side as well. It’s compelling, it’s laugh-out-loud funny at times (James Deen is such a ham), it has tons of valuable advice for anyone who’s interested in getting into porn… and may be of interest to those who are simply curious about the inner workings of the business as well. If APAC’s future projects are as professional and practical as this video, I daresay we can expect to see some pretty great things from this fledgling organization.

The underwear that’s fun to wear

Jesse Sideways Jock

One of my longtime fans recently asked a question about a fetish that it seems a lot of you share:

openquoteAre you a huge underwear person? Are there types, styles you generally like? And do you have a collection you set aside just for your shoots, versus vids and appearances? Inquiring minds wanna know!”

Here in the US, we used to have a brand of children’s underwear back in the ’80s called Underoos; they were “the underwear that’s fun to wear,” as the commercial went. They were modeled after the looks of various cartoon characters. I remember that I had two different pairs: Superman and Underdog. (Yes, Underdog. I loved that show.) Other than that, I only wore tighty-whities.

Titan JockstrapMoving forward… throughout my teens and twenties, I continued wearing tighty-whities. Yeah, pretty boring. I tried wearing boxer shorts, but my — ahem — “size” kinda precluded their use as I flopped around all over the place. Hanes were my preferred brand, and I always thought they were good enough.

The one exception to this rule was the jock strap. While I didn’t wear one for typical everyday use, I definitely used them for sports: ice hockey, at first — complete with cup — and later for rugby. (Incidentally, one does not use a cup when one plays rugby; the prospect of accidentally dislodging one of your balls and then being hit when it’s outside the cup is almost too gruesome to imagine.) And, once in a while, when I was feeling especially horny or frisky I’d wear one to the gym along with mesh shorts, hoping someone would notice. And occasionally, someone did… which led to some adventures I’ll write about in a future blog post.

My underwear tastes changed about 5 years ago when I went to Mr. S Leather in San Francisco and tried on Nasty Pig underwear for the first time. (With an audience, I might add.) I was hooked. They fit so much more comfortably than those Hanes tighty-whities I’d worn all my life. Their jock straps were super comfortable, too, and they even make a rubber one! Nowadays, between Nasty Pig and Cellblock 13 stuff, that’s all I ever wear. (By the way, each of the links in this paragraph point to Mr. S Leather’s website, where they’re celebrating their 35th anniversary through the end of August with $3.50 flat rate domestic shipping… and if you live outside California, it’s tax-free! Time to grab some new undies!)

DSC_0478ha-web CROPDirk is a different animal. His motto is “nunquam ubi sub ubi,” which is Latin for “never wear underwear.” When he wears mesh shorts at the gym without undies (as he often does), you can see everything. He does use underwear on rare occasions, though… like when he pulls out a particularly old pair of jeans with a hole in them that would cause him to be arrested if he went out in public without something underneath. But I digress.

People often ask me about the kind of underwear we wear during a porn shoot. One of the requirements is that the clothing used during filming cannot have obvious branding Small trademarks are unavoidable (have you ever tried to find a pair of underwear that doesn’t have the manufacturer’s name written across the waistband?) but we try to minimize it as much as possible. If the director has specific requirements for the scene, he’ll talk it over with us before the shoot and we’ll bring what we can with us. But typically, I have a two jock straps that I use over and over again: an unbranded navy blue one, and an unbranded black one. You can see one or the other in most of my work… including the picture at the top of this post.

In closing, let me share a few underwear shots with you… both from my archives, and from a photo shoot that Dirk did recently with a wonderfully talented local photographer named Joey FlyFoto. Joey, by the way, has an awesome book out called The White Shorts Project, and Dirk and I are in it! I’ve included our photos from it at the bottom of this post, but be sure to check out the book and its hundreds of hot guys!

Oh yeah, and that Titan jock strap I’m holding in that one pic above? It’s available in the Titan Store.

Keeping it clean

Once in a while I get asked what some consider an uncomfortable question: How do you stay, uh, clean when you’re bottoming? Unless you and your partner are into scat, it can be a bit embarrassing when the top pulls out and — how shall I put this delicately? — finds his dick covered in shit. Try not to be too hard on yourself, though… shit happens, as it were. It happens to everyone at some time or another, even porn actors. (Yes, it does happen on set occasionally; when it does, we usually take 5 minutes for the bottom to go “touch-up,” as we say in the biz.) But to help you minimize the risk of getting into a messy situation, allow me to humbly offer my thoughts on how to clean up your act… and stay clean.

Protein shake... now with Metamucil!

Protein shake… now with Metamucil!

I used to eat like shit (sorry, that was too easy). I’d have pizza every other night, loved fried food, would wolf down Big Macs like they were sliders. My digestive health suffered big time… and when I would hook up with guys, it was kind of a “crap shoot” (enough with the puns!) whether or not I’d be stinking up the room. Now, however, I get fucked with confidence, knowing that I’ll be clean as a whistle every time… and I owe it all to a healthy diet that’s rich in, you guessed it, fiber… along with lots of lean proteins and green vegetables. And to boost my fiber intake, I mix Metamucil into my protein shakes. Don’t laugh… it’s good for you! And I’ve found that when I blend it into my shakes along with vanilla protein powder and some ice, it makes for a nice texture, kind of like orange sherbet. By the way, the daily recommended dose of fiber for an adult male is 38 grams per day. Don’t overdo it… too much and you can get constipated.

Enemas are your best friends.

An enema can be your best friend.

Now that I’ve gotten the preachy “eat healthy” bit out of the way, it’s time to discuss techniques for cleaning out. Douching is an uncomfortable subject for many, but I’m going to attempt to give it fair due here. The most important rule, I’d have to say, is “less is more.” If you shoot too much water up your butt, you’re going to loosen stuff up that would have otherwise been just fine way up in there, and untouchable even by the biggest of dicks. So, as with your fiber intake, don’t overdo it. Plus if you put too much water up there, you’ll start to feel uncomfortably bloated.

One of the simplest ways to clean out is a good old-fashioned Fleet enema. They’re cheap, portable, easy to use, and effective; step-by-step instructions are available on Fleet’s website. Inserting the tip might be a little uncomfortable, but try to relax, breath deeply, and try not to clench. Once you’ve got the fluid in there, don’t expel it right away… hold it until you feel the urge to go, but no longer than 10 minutes. And when you do take that crap, you’ll be rid of most of the gunk up there.

For convenient touch-ups, I like to rinse out a little more by using a device called a douche bulb. You fill it with water and use it much the same way as you do an enema. It’s portable, reusable, and especially great for when you’re feeling like you’re probably okay but you just want to be sure.

For a deeper clean, I use a device called a Shower Shot. No power bottom should be without one. They’re easy to install, hygienic, and have a valve that lets you adjust the water pressure. As I keep mentioning, though, be careful not to overdo it. Using too much pressure or rinsing out too many times can actually loosen up stuff you don’t want to be loosened up, and using it at full force can actually damage your insides. Easy does it!

Hit me with your best Shower Shot.

Hit me with your best Shower Shot.

You can also get a portable version of a Shower Shot that simply hooks over your shower head with no special hardware and you can take it with you anywhere. Sweet!

When I’m cleaning out, I prefer to stand in the shower and bend forward; some people are more comfortable sitting on a toilet or lying down in a bathtub. No matter what position you use, the technique is the same: If you’re using a bulb, fill it with warm water; if you’ve got a Shower Shot, start running warm water through it at a relatively low pressure. Then, using a little lube if necessary, insert the tip of the nozzle into your hole. It doesn’t have to go far. Then just relax and let the water flow in. Once you start to feel “full,” remove the nozzle and expel the water, then repeat until the result is relatively clear. You’re not looking for perfection here… remember, less is more! Sometimes you’ll be clean after the first rinse; other times it might take a couple of iterations. But once you’ve gotten most of the gunk out, don’t keep going. You’re probably only going to make things worse.

So there you have it… my quick ‘n dirty clean guide to douching. I’m sure there are plenty of other effective methods out there that people swear by; these are only my personal experiences and recommendations. Also, please don’t consider this to be medical advice… I can’t be held responsible if something goes wrong. But if you relax and take it nice and slow, you’ll be good to go and ready to be fucked with flair. Happy bottoming!

Q&A: “What’s your favorite smell, and why?”

Dirk eats an heirloom tomato, juice running down his chin…

A little while ago I reached out to my Facebook followers to see if anybody wanted to know anything about me or about the industry, and the response was overwhelming! I got over 50 great questions on topics ranging from my carnivorous preferences (“Chicken or beef?”) to my thoughts on the philosophy of Soren Kierkegaard. Some of the questions were so interesting that Dirk and I have decided to both weigh in; over the coming weeks we’ll be posting responses to each of our blogs in a new “Q&A” series. This is gonna be fun!

Let’s start with Gil Bear’s intriguing question: “What’s your favorite smell, and why?”

JESSE: This is going to sound cliché, but my favorite smell is Dirk. I’m usually indifferent to body odor, but for some reason the smell of Dirk makes my heart flutter. Other than that, I’ve always had an affinity for the smell of unburnt tobacco… like if you unroll a cigarette and just smell the leaves, which I find really strange because I hate the smell of a lit cigarette. I also love the smell of fresh mint and, perhaps relatedly, Bengay (it’s a locker room fantasy thing for me).

While I’m on the topic of odors, the scent I find most foul is durian, that fruit that smells like rotting flesh. I’ve never tasted it, because I can’t get past the stench. Dirk’s had it, though, and says once you get it into your mouth it actually tastes pretty good. And my mom, who used to have no sense of smell, tried it once and said it tasted like cheese. (A series of steroid treatments have since cleared up her olfactory issue; I’ll have to remember to ask her what she thinks of durian now.)

DIRK: Tea tree oil, fresh tomatoes, half-baked lasagna, ocean air. It’s all association. Fresh tomatoes because I associate it with my grandmom’s house in summer. She always grew heirloom tomatoes, which were the best ever. I used to eat them like apples, with the juice running down my chin. And tea tree oil because I think the stuff is miraculous. Ocean air is the smell of where I lived the first twelve years of my life. And the lasagna was my grandmom’s cooking, although my mom’s is just as good.

Oh, and I like the smell of a good, healthy, clean male body. I’d fall asleep in my boyfriend’s armpit any day.

We’ll be posting more answers to your excellent questions in the very near future!